I have a lot. First know that it is only anxiety. It will pas. It can not hurt you. You will not die or go crazy. It is your mind and body on high alert and you will have to learn how to relax both. 1. First work on your body. Lay down on a couch and focus on your toes, flex them for a count of five, then relax them for a count of five. Do this with your entire body. Anxiety cannot exist in a relaxed body. Just like you can not be happy and sad at the same time. You cannot cry and laugh at the same time. Just knowing that helps. Now work on your thoughts. Do affirmations: I am healthy and strong. I know how to heal myself both physically and emotional. I will take care of myself. I enjoy positive thoughts and feelings. I surround myself with positive people . I deserve to be calm and relaxed. I handle stressful situations slowly and appropriately. I am a capable person. I can go on with my day even in times of stress. I know how to comfort myself. The world around me is full of abundant beauty. I know how to structure my day to meet the need of my emotional and physically health. I know how to heal myself both emotiuonally and physically. etc. Then do imagery: Close your eyes and imagine that you are a big, majestic oak tree. You arms are the branches they are strong. They are wide and stretch out far and wide. Your body is the trunk. It is a few feet wide. It is sturdy and so strong. You are sturdy and so strong. You feet and ;legs are the rootws. The extend for and wideeeeeee. The go so deep ionto the earth. Visualize the roots -feet- going deeper and deeper into the earth, wrapping around boulders and going on for miles. You feel strong, and mighty , confident, and so so grounded. (With anxiety/panic we often times feel not grounded-unorganized-hard to focus and this helps us feel grounded and helps with concentration .) Do a gratitude notebook-Focus and write about all that you are grateful for. List at least five thing,s No matter how small the warmh of the coffee cup, jut be truly grateful. Do this everyday. Eat good feeling food like_ milk, yogurt, nuts, spinach , turkey, salmon, oatmeal , chocolate. Set your environment so it is soothing: play some relaxing music, light a candle, spray lavender around. Declutter some thing because that can be stressful to look at (like the kitchen table or coffee table whatever. So you are woiking on your senses> You have sight: you are creating a comforting and relaxing environment> You have scent: Light a scented candle and or put some body lotion on . Touch: Feel of the body lotion --nice and comforting, a cozy warm blanket, even a nice warm bath or a hot cup of coffee. Make sure you focus on each thing and enjoy the moment. Only the moment. Sound: Quiet or a relaxing music-maybe classical.Taste: yum have something soothing or decadent and really enjoy it. You deserve it. Actions: Do something positive: Call an old friend, help a neighbor, an elderly, a mome wioth childeren. Do something that you really want to do: shop, draw, color, paint. Do something creative this has a calming effect. Distract your self by doing a game , or a puzzle, soduko, or video. Yhou are not alone. You you can not find any relief-you do not have to call the ER. There is a crisis line and it is not just for suicide. They will help you. They will guide you. Just hearing a professional helps. Just taking care of it and knowing that you can helps. REad and watch an uplifting story. Skip the news.

I can not thank you enough for all of your advice!!!

When I finally stopped trying to control my anxiety, I was much better able to cope. I kept saying to myself "By letting go, I will grow". As long as try to control anxiety, it increases and controls you. Try acceptance...saying that this is going to happen and I'm still going to move on with my life.

Eddy is right. It begins psychologically with "letting go." Letting go of our fears, our misconceptions, and "should be doing's" and "what if's."

For when anxiety already starts, I've found that telling myself "this is not a true threat" has really helped. A lot of people with anxiety let psychological things (like job, social stuff, etc) trick their bodies into thinking that they are physical threats which activates our adrenaline system.

Good luck.