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Cw2
Cw2

Hi all



I suffer from anxiety. I grew up in an abusive household. I have been with my husband for 10 years. For the first 4 years her physically abused me but for the last 6 years he has been nothing but a gem. However tonight in an argument he went a bit crazy and smashed up the laptop and almost smashed it on my head. It has just brought all those negative feelings and anxieties back in a flash. Suddenly I am re living my past at home and my past with him and the anxiety is just nauseating. I just want to be told I am not crazy for feeling like this and for rocking to an fro on the couch for 2 hours. My heart is broken for our children. Thank God they didn't witness it. 

Community LeaderMid
Mid
With the time between this latest outburst and previous ones, I'd look at the possible triggers. However, stay safe. This is not good for any of you, including your husband.
Take a time out, step back, and find a calm, so you can make a decision that will keep you safe.
Nightcore8000
Nightcore8000
you're not crazy, and you have a few choices to report him to the cops if it gets worse, to try to stay distant from him, and to leave with your children. you can also come up with an idea of your own. have a good life.
blueraincoat123
blueraincoat123
you are not crazy. i was in a relationship with an abuser and it didn't happen every day, but only now that i'm out of it, I realize how brutal it was. You don't have to live like this...
bridgie101
bridgie101
I would see it as a new transaction and ask what it was about the computer that made him blow his stack.

If you had never had the history of abuse behind you, you would be handling this differently. How would you be handling it? That's the question. If this had been his first blowup, would it have upset you?

I have often wanted to smash the television. I must say. Maybe it's as simple as that?
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