Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Hi everyone,
I just came to realize that most of my anxiety is related to my appearance. For example, I get very anxious when I'm standing up and talking to someone and we have sustained eye contact. I start thinking about whether they can see I'm nervous and what I look like when I'm engaged in the conversation with them. Also, if I'm sitting down and have my head turned talking to someone next to me I worry about how I look. What I mean by this is say for example I'm ordering food at a restaurant and have to turn and order and maintain eye contact with my head turned. I also hate having my picture taken and get a really bad head tremor when it is taken. Lately I've even had trouble speaking because I think too much about what I'm trying to say before I say it.
Do you guys have any suggestions? Is it all a matter of just being confident in everything and saying screw how I look and what people think about me?
I just came to realize that most of my anxiety is related to my appearance. For example, I get very anxious when I'm standing up and talking to someone and we have sustained eye contact. I start thinking about whether they can see I'm nervous and what I look like when I'm engaged in the conversation with them. Also, if I'm sitting down and have my head turned talking to someone next to me I worry about how I look. What I mean by this is say for example I'm ordering food at a restaurant and have to turn and order and maintain eye contact with my head turned. I also hate having my picture taken and get a really bad head tremor when it is taken. Lately I've even had trouble speaking because I think too much about what I'm trying to say before I say it.
Do you guys have any suggestions? Is it all a matter of just being confident in everything and saying screw how I look and what people think about me?
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Hello- I am new to the group
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My therapist really knocked some sense into me last Friday about my spending. She said that there are needs and there are wants. She said that there is always going to be cheap stuff to buy, but do I need it? The answer is mostly "no". So today, I am taking back some things that I bought online at Kohl's, namely a 9 x 12 rug and a quilt for my bed. I also bought sheets that I don't need...
I've noticed it only really happens to me when I'm slightly more on edge, I guess racing thoughts thanks to anxiety and over thinking which leads me to feel like the conversation was wasted because I was too focused on that to get what was being said.
I worry about my looks too, but when I feel like this, I normally push up my confidence with a playlist on my ipod, inspirational confident type songs and that normally gets me through that along with what you said screw other people and their opinions, the only one that matters about me is my own.
I know I have to maintain eye contact with a person's face as I read lips. When I'm anxious, this is often the first symptom, being "on edge", scanning the entire area and double-teaming my observation.
If you are distracting your self every time you start the "appearance" when you practice in front of the mirror, you will find what works the best to help you get back into "the moment".
Best wishes!