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Anticipatory Anxiety - Help Needed

Edger
Edger
I try to do mindful meditation. Try to live one day at a time. But, it's real hard. Especially worrying about something with my mother. Since I don't drive the beltway anymore and it takes me one and one half hours using back and country roads to get to her house from mine. She is 87 years old frail and on a walker. Lives alone except when my brother comes to stay two to four days. He is another problem. He has personality disorder. Is lazy. Won't help mom except for minor things or if it's an emergency. My mother treats him like he is still a little boy and does everything for him.

Didn't mean to give you my whole life story. I've been dealing with stress from them for years now. Right now I need to work on the anticipatory anxiety to get though the winter.


Barbara
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HELLO SORRY U R HAVING SUCH A HARD TIME RIGHT NOW DO U TAKE MEDS FOR UR ANXIETY AN HAVE U TRIED TALKING TO HIM
MsBlank1
MsBlank1
Can either your mom or you move closer to each other? My mom lived 800 miles away and is in a wheelchair....lived alone. After my dad passed away, I told my mom I wanted her closer to me and I moved her a half hour away from me in Independent Living facility. It lets her live alone, but closer to me. I could not move closer to her as I am paid to live here and after she is gone, I'd be living on the streets (long story). Soooooo, I found it more feasible to have her move closer to me. Before my mom moved closer, her sister was being abusive (mental issues) and friends and people were taking advantage of her. Plus she was trying to maintain a home with her savings that dwindled to practically nothing in trying to keep my dad home when he was living (he had been sick for 21 years). She was constantly hounding me for money......so this worked out best. Even when I can't be there, the facility checks on her all the time. Her meals are provided as well as many other conveniences. I didn't think my mom could afford it, but this free agency worked with me and found the place where mom lives...it's wonderful and takes the stress off me (I'm an only child).
My mom still is in contact with her abusive sister via phone, but can not come into physical contact with her.....that fixed everything. When they talk, I told my mom I don't want to know when they talked or what they have talked about....end of story. This has cut my stress 110%
This is just a suggestion.
MsBlank1
MsBlank1
Oh,......and as for your brother and mom's relationship. They won't change now. As long as your mom doesn't mind doing things for him and she is ok.......then let it go. If he is abusive towards her....that's a whole other ball game. As long as he takes care of emergencies....that is the important thing.
Edger
Edger
My mother won't move from her house. I have a husband and he wouldn't move. I don't want to move also. I can't talk to my brother. He is as rigid as my mother.
I take 60 mg of Prozac every day. And take Xanax when needed. I have been obsessing about something with my mother and now my own anxiety has increased for my own life. I have GAD so I worry about everything.

Barbara