Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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kathilee
kathilee
Hi , I have been experiencing anxiety for many years ..sometimes its much worse than other times. I have tried meds..but i couldnt tolerate the side effects....I have trouble staying asleep..tossing and turning and wake up exhausted most days. My sister has been abusing me physcologically and i put up with it to the dettrement of myself and now I have extreme anxiety if i see her number come up on the caller ID. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to do? I am seeing a councellor. I am still afraid
chelle37
chelle37
Hi Kathilee! I'm glad you've found DS, and it's great that you're getting support through counseling too. Are you still in contact with your sister? If so have you thought about taking a break from her?
kathilee
kathilee
hi, Yes I had to take 2 weeks break from her and now its over and I will have to talk to her again.
chelle37
chelle37
Is talking to her again something you want to do? Just curious, if you're not ready to have her back in your life you have every right to extend the break as long as you need to.
kathilee
kathilee
Thanks , I do want to extend the break. I will figure out a way to do it..I dont want to hurt her..even though she hurts me..I do know that i feel much more at peace when I am not talking with her..she has BPD and has been rageful toward me and has told me that she has hardened her heart..which is scary ... I just dont know how to talk to her..although i have done alot of research.
AndreaBEE
AndreaBEE
Hi Kathilee,

I just joined today and like you have had anxiety for years but it has gotten worse. Today has been a day and I have not smoked for 3 days. I am also so tired I think because of the anxiety. Let me know if I can help you or offer support.
chelle37
chelle37
I'd definitely extend the break. Whenever you decide to allow her back in, I'd set up very specific boundaries with her as far as if she's disrespectful to you that you will not stay in contact with her. I know she's your sister but she doesn't have a right to treat you that way. Does she respect it when you take a break from her, or does she try to contact you anyway?
kathilee
kathilee
Thankyou for your help and advice Chelle37. She does try to contact me..this time only twice..and thats a miracle because usually 10 times a day and nasty facebook messages too. I think she knows that i was on the verge of breaking down..and depression came along with it. She left a message a few days ago and just hearing her voice sent me into a panic..but I feel a wee bit stronger now with seeing the therapist and reading this book she reccomended Called Self Compassion by Kristin neff. Instead of believing the things my sister says because now I understand that she doesnt mean what she says but they still affect me.