Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Erica71
Erica71
I just feel like if I could have a day where NOBODY asked me to do anything outside of my comfort zone..then that might give me some time to think and pull myself together and get some skills going. I love my family so much..but I kid you not....EVERYTIME I turn around one of my teenage kids is wanting me to take them here or take them there..and when I say no....(because of my anxiety)...I feel like the biggest failure as a mom. I have always been there for them..they are 15 and 17..both have permits to drive but no license yet. My girl plays sports and I have pretty much always been to every game that she's ever had....EVER...this season.....I'm opting to miss a few of the away games to, like I said, gather myself, give myself a break from the constant anxiety....well....wouldn't you know it...and I don't fault her for this....but suddenly....SHE NEEDS ME THERE!!! Never seemed to care one way or the other before but now.....this one time that I need a break...she really really wants me there..so again....salt in the wound that is my anxiety and constant failure feelings. My son is on a fitness kick..and it's a good thing to want to be fit..but he is constantly asking me to take him to the gym that is not comfortable for me....and he acts like this place is going to miraculously turn him into a fit adonis. We have weights here and a perfectly good neighborhood circle that when walked or jogged around 2ce makes a mile..and we have a stationary bike...but NOOOOOO.....it has to be the gym. If I didn't have anxiety, none of these things would be bothering me...but I am hit with something new everyday. As I write this.....keep in mind...I have TERRIFIC kids....but I just need noone to ask anything of me other than meals...clean clothes..and a ride to school for a few days. Can anyone relate to this?
Squarley
Squarley
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL ,I FEEL LIKE I CAN NOT TAKE ONE MORE THING,EVERY THING IS TO MUCH ,MY ANXIETY IS UP SO BAD, I TAKE XANX IT HELPS BUT I DO NOT WANT TO RELY ON PILLS ,SEEING MY THERAPIST NEXT WEEK ,WISH I COULD HELP YOU BUT YOUR NOT ALONE SOME TIMES WE NEED A BREAK, HUGS SQUARLEY
Erica71
Erica71
Thanks Squarely.....I'm not glad that you suffer...but it does feel better knowing that I'm not alone. Reading this made me tear up a little. I feel like not one person understands me in my life. I don't know of one other personally, personally, who has an anxiety disorder with the exception of my brother..but his is predominantly OCD and doesn't affect his travels. Thanks for the reply....thoughts are with you as well.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your not alone, I can relate. This few weeks have been awful for me. Hang in there hun.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Relax, embrace the anxiety, know it will disappear after you do the activity. They are only teenagers a short time, and I'd give anything to have those precious moments with them.
I had to drive mine everywhere and learned a lot of things in those car drives that would never have been shared at home.
The break you get will be the pleasure you share with them.
Anxiety is with us for a lifetime, it's natural, and we can beat the worst of it through movement -the act of moving will help the overload of anxiety disappear naturally.
Keep hydrated.
Hope this helps.
Erica71
Erica71
Thanks Kika ...sorry you're having a rough time too...and ty mideyebrow....I have always even during my anxiety been that mom that took the kids where they needed to go..I would fight through it and just do it....this episode is just a little different..I just need a few days to recharge..and I'm not getting that....thanks for all input =)
deleted_user
deleted_user
teenagers are demanding and self centered... it is just their nature
Erica71
Erica71
LOL :P
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe you should talk to your kids about this. they are close to being adults now and need to understand that the world can't be centered around them. Trust me I'm only 20 and I was there a few years ago. If you let them know kinda how it feels to have anxiety attacks and just let them know you need a few days to relax maybe they'll back off. Maybe you can even bribe them like if they let you relax for a few days you'll take them to their favorite restaraunt or something like that. Unfortunately as teenagers even though we can see the world a bit more clearly then little kids we're still slightly oblivious sometimes and need these things to be pointed out. Good Luck with this. Hope it gets better
nicole1971
nicole1971
Completely, last summer I was in a real bad place, my kids are 4 and 9. They constantly need things, I was beside myself in keeping up with them. I was in such a bad place I had to say no to them a few times, but I would feel guilty, it was crazy, I was actually on thrill rides at Canada's Wonderland while having panic attacks...... Not pretty! I understand how you feel, your need to be good to yourself and still be the mom you always have been that your kids are used too.
Erica71
Erica71
Thanks Warped and Nicole. Warped...you're right...and I've tried talking to them about it..but then minutes later they'll ask me to take them somewhere....which means they didn't get it..LOL...guess it's try and try again.. Nicole...that thing you said about saying no and feeling guilty..that is me in a nutshell....I can say no and not feel guilt when it's not because of my anxiety...but when I say no because of my anxiety...IT FEELS AWFUL!!...and sorry...but I grinned a little imagining someone on a thrill ride having a panic attack..haha..sorry.. all for the kids...gotta love em...I know how it is!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
You coulld try a happy medium. What about once a week to the mall or other place of interest and once a week to a gym.

They can ask their friends for a ride on the other days.

Are they aware of your anxiety? Maybe a talk with them about how you are working on things to make yourself feel better might hlep.
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