I am in need of some help from anyone who might have an opinion as to help me deal with my problem with my fiancee who has MAJOR anger management problems,(let me say right now that he does not physically abuse me in any way whatsoever). His anger management problems verge on the edge of RAGE. I love the man, as when he is not getting mad at someone or something he is the sweetest most caring man that I have ever met. It doesn't take much for him to get mad....he is one of those road rage types...if he thinks that someone should have made a turn because there was enough room but the person driving the car in front of him didn't he will beep his horn at that person and call them a bad driver and then start with the racial remarks. I've told him time and time again that I really disapprove of it when he makes racial remarks regardless of why. It bothers me but he just tries to justify it by saying that it is a "guy thing". I know this isn't the truth because I have known several "guys" in my lifetime and they don't use the same racial slurs that my fiancee does. There was a time when he promised me (after an argument) that he would try his best not to use racial slurs...especially the "N" word. That lasted all of a week or so and then it just went back to the same old thing and that is when he mentioned to me that "it's a guy thing".

Does anyone have any ideas as to what I can do or say to help remedy this situation?? I am out of ideas of how to deal with his rage except to keep quiet and just let him let loose.

HELP!!!!