Your first mistake was getting married. Men get trashed in divorce court every day. Let's hope that you're not the next one.
Be *VERY* careful about raising your voice at your wife to express anger - all it takes is one loud argument, a worried neighbor calls the cops, and they take you to jail. Big feminism and big government do it again to the average man!.
Point three: nobody on the management of daily strength cares about male problems - they only care about female problems. I would go and confront them on this issue - maybe they'll start listening.

Have you told your spouse you don't like them doing this? And how it's making you feel?

I have told her that she could moderate some of the tiner tiny incidents of control, such as "put your turn signal on" in a parking lot. She has naturally extended that to mean every single instance in which case it becomes more of a reminder to do something that I forgot than a microscopic incident. So it goes. People hear what they want to hear.

Oh do I have a suggestion for you! There was a series on PBS or the BBC channels called "Keeping up Appearances" If you can order the set and watch it, you will know why I am recommending this to you! Look it up, you will SO want to get it and make your wife watch it. This woman in the series is the BIGGEST pain in the behind, and you will feel so validated!

We are well versed in Hyacynth Bucket. LOL

AHAHAHAHA The what's the problem!!! I'd just pop the tape in and make her watch it! OMG That's the first thing that popped into my head when I read this post! Sorry, I know you're pissed , but come on....you are married to HYACINTH!!!!

Oh, and Reisen..it's bouquet

Not really amused.

Then my attempt at levity to relieve anger, stress and tension is over. Godd luck with the rage.

Sooo sorry to hear your wife doesn this to you..My husband does same thing..and makes a verbal shore list of things for me to do every day..I think I can undrestand how much restraint it takes to not...rip their head off..he alos tends to nag...keep bringin it up oevr and OVER..does she do THAT too?. Journaling helps me..also phycial exercise...to burn off all that pent up energy and anger...Im tryin to think of what might help..but feel you your situation..Sorry...

Reisen55 - my wife does this all the time too.
drives me nuts! yor're not alone in this!
This morning I packed lunches, snacks (I forgot to pack something for their lunches) for my twin 5 year olds to take to daycare. well I was half way to work and she called me to b*#ch and complain about how I forget everything. This has only happened one other time, when they were 2. Its always the little things that get her going.

Dayna21
Apologies but I am just not in much of an amusement mood these days. Very little in my life is amusing anymore. All we do is fight and not even one nice evening can go by without something coming up. I would get on a bus and just leave for someplace else.

This post makes me nervous because I'm divorcing my husband now and what ended our marriage was traumatic and devastating. We BOTH got on each others nerves, and the anger and resentment built up until it got insane. The police were called. I would never have believed it would happen to me.

I believe I had ways that irritated him just as much as he irritated me after 21 years, and SOMEHOW it all got out of hand.

I see how fed up the OP and the others are here, and I truly wish I could hand you the answer. I know it's like to not be able to stand one more second.

All I CAN do is tell you that if you choose to stay, you must do so knowing that you are NOT going to change the person and have that bus ticket or a motel room close by in case you really feel like you're going to explode/implode. I also feel we could have used many more VACATIONS AWAY FROM THE CRAP ! I'm not necessarily talking about Tahiti, but sometimes we all need a break, and it's not healthy to have ( sorry for this ) , the same old person and their sh*t swirling through our minds ALL THE TIME. It makes you crazy.

Vacation ~ even just a mental one.

I don't mean to be brusk, but you need to learn about boundaries and start asserting them. It's your life after all and it's up to you to deal with it. If you are letting another person dominate you need to find a way to bring that to an end.

If your wife is pushing you then you have to tell her to stop, plain and simple. If she won't stop then you have to decide if and how you want to continue in the relationship. One idea is that the two of you could fnd a good therapist so you can work it out.

Another suggestion is that you might want to look into assertiveness training. I"ve never takenit but from what I've heard it can be very helpful with this kind of thing.

I am being "micromanaged" by a "friend" of mine that is in a Brain injury Coalition with me-(This person in the former secretary of the group and I took his place as secretary this year.). I believe he is still coming to grips with the fact that he isn't secretary any more and I am, and he e-mails me with "suggestions" on how I can be doing a better job. Well, I e-mailed him recently and told him how I felt about it-(and also how I felt the coalition is not making progress in certain areas which I feel are important.). I haven't heard from this individual since, so I am not sure what's going to happen. He has to remember that HE is the one who wanted to step down as secretary-(even though I was the one who threw my hat in the ring and wanted to be secretary.).. I guess only time will tell if this worked for me or if I should just walk away from this situation-(I have threatened to step down several times and this individual begs me to stay on.).

Tom B. aka Ihman