Thank you, Canaan. I will definitely take your advice to heart.

I am in a similar situation except that my stressors are not co-workers they are neighbors. For a great long period of time I have been subjected to levels of harrassment like you would not believe and it is not easy to deal with and it has brought out feelings of both anger and depression in me. The only way I can maintain peace here is to stay entirely to myself and keep my life completely seperated from anyone else's around me-and i have no problem with that. But, what has really upset me is that is has caused me to pretty much decide that soon I will leave my own church because of it; they have permeated their way into that as well. I guess I am just dismayed because even though I know I can take control of my life and run my own life, I still feel I have caved to a point because I have had to put aside various privelages and outlets just to maintain my peace. But. sometimes you need to do that because your peace of mind is more important that trying to constantly be in battle with individuals you simply will never be able to reason with or coincide with. I can find a new church that will help lift me up. My landlord is also my current pastor and it hurts me to feel the need to walk away from the church but I am not getting anything in the way of spiritual uplifitng there and plus I respect him enough to give him the room to fulfill his need to fulfill his calling without me interferring or being a source of disruption. It still hurts though and it has left a pretty big hole in my heart.
I will overcome though and will rise back up from the ashes and will feel better because I will be sticking with my principles and morals and I will be my own person living my own life in the right. Sure, I will still have enemies who will verbally persecute and hate me behind my back but I would much rather be hated for being right and walking in the right than to be deemed popular for running with a crowd whose purpose is only to live in and create chaos.

I worked with someone exactly like her, once. The woman grabbed men's testicles, when she would walk past -- the male managers -- it was government. One of the very top managers once commented about her goosing him, but no one else ever saw a thing. She was very close to the man over the entire division.

If she doesn't bother you, if she isn't interfering with your life, if she isn't putting her hands on your boyfriend -- do you understand how much joy she would get from knowing that you are making yourself completely miserable, jeopardizing your relationship with your boyfriend, because of your obsession with her? That should be enough incentive to get your focus back on your own life.

PinterestFan, I finally gained control. I noticed now that she sees she doesn't bother me anymore and it makes her unhappy. Anytime she sees me smiling or laughing, the irritation is quite visible on her face! I finally let go of this "dark passenger" and it doesn't control me anymore. I'm a lot happier now and at peace with myself. A lot of people at work have no respect for her because of the way she is. I almost feel bad for her, but that's the kind of life she wants to live. So she'll just have to suffer the consequences of being alone until she can finally come to respect herself and respect others...which I don't foresee happening. I don't let the shadows that she casts into my life anymore! :)