Anger Management Support Group

Anger management commonly refers to therapeutic techniques by which someone with excessive or uncontrollable anger can control or reduce their emotions. Typical examples include the use of deep breathing and meditation as a means to relaxation. Psychologists recommend a balanced approach, which both controls the emotion and allows it to express itself in a healthy way.

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Blowing My Top

WinterRose111
WinterRose111


 



Anger is a big problem in my life – probably the central problem.  While I may not always act on it – and when I do, it is never to physically harm anyone – it is boiling below the surface quite often.  It is easily triggered and I have yet to find the commonality.  If I am managing it, then I still need to go hit something and find somewhere alone where I can scream and yell.  If I am not managing it, then I mouth off (to a stranger) or blow up, yelling nonstop at the top of my voice (to my spouse or father).  I can’t live like this anymore.  I am committed to changing and that is why I am here.  This is a lousy way to treat people and a lousy way to treat my own body.



I have not had a bad life and I don’t understand where this comes from, except perhaps from being a passive people-pleaser for too long.  Now, I am in my 30s and the anger has erupted from all those years of biting my tongue.



Please understand, I am truly, truly interested in doing the work to change.  I have to, there is no doubt whatsoever about that.  Thank you.



OlderCPer
OlderCPer
So, don't take this the wrong way, but it you're managing your anger then you don't need to go hit something or find somewhere to scream and yell. When you learn to manage your anger you learn coping skills so that you can stop from having to do those kind of things.

There are Anger Management classes that can help you do that. Or there are 1 on 1 Therapy sessions that can help you do that, but there are ways to retrain your brain how to manage your anger.

You can contact a local hospital in the city you live in and ask about Anger Management classes or resources. Or you can call local Therapists and inquire as to which treat Anger issues. This isn't something you can generally teach yourself, it will require some help from a Professional, first to learn what triggers it and get that under control and then to learn coping skills to handle things before your Anger ever gets to a point of boiling over.

I hope you're able to find some help with this.

Take care,
Kat
WinterRose111
WinterRose111
@OlderCPer Thank you for the helpful suggestions. Yes, I do work with one professional in particular and have worked with others in the past, some rather well, and supplement with courses online in between sessions. I believe I was unclear regarding what I do when managing so I can understand your reply. I gave you the shorthand version but ultimately, it's a set of steps based on venting in a healthy way when alone. Not the person we can imagine who flies into a rage and breaks everything in sight - that one isn't me. Thank you again for reaching out and best wishes to you.
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