I know, I feel your pain, sadness, anger or what ever feeling(s) this creates.

The first time I was really upset. Now that I am prepared with the right tools for clean up - it is becoming just another thing.

Still - hard to deal with and another big decline.

A funny memory for me,....my grandfather went through the stage of peeing anywhere and one day I walked into his bedroom to say hi and he was standing at an artificial plant and had that thing out just a peeing, I said "paw paw, what are you doing" and all he could do was look over his shoulder and smile and started laughing, I couldn't help but laugh with him. Mom came in and we all started laughing.

So, all of you (smile) at this story. :)

My husband will absolutely look me in the eye while peeing somewhere he isn't supposed to and say, "it was hurting and I couldn't wait." even if he is two steps from the toilet!

For some reason I cannot wake myself up when he has to go to the bathroom at night, I'm aware he's going but it's almost like I'm paralyzed and I can't get up. If I got up with him then I could prevent some of these accidents.

Deborah, I'm sorry you had a bad night and morning. I can imagine as tired as you are at the end of the day that it would be extremely hard to get upd uring the night, so don't blame yourself.
Enjoyed the funny grandpa story. I guess sometimes we just have to laugh to get through things.

As I was reading the replies I started to chuckle- where else can you post a note that is titled "pooped in the hallway" and actually have other people responded who actually have had similar experiences!

How true.. and how funny. I had poop patrol duty last night as well.

This site and you gals keep me sane and laughing

Thank god Neal is not at that point yet but I'm thinking we're going to start having issues with continence pretty soon...he usual wears dark clothes so I can't tell by looking if he's wet or not but when I stripped him down for his last bath I found he'd been peeing in his pants.. not a full fledged just wetting them but it looks as though he is losing the signal that tells him it's time to pee OR he is pulling up his pants before he is done peeing and doesn't realize it.
I do not want to go into depends with him just yet so I"m going to give panty liners a try, get some of those light flow days things and see if they will keep him dry. I don't want to hurt his feelings by checking his pants ever time he goes potty, he was so horrified the two times he lost control and had b.m.s all over the house, he is still aware enough that this isn't right...It would be easier in some ways if he didn't know what was going on, then I could just diaper him and do regular checks like I did when caring for patients...

I put Ron in Depends plus a booster pad in February. He wore a pad for about a year before that. I thought, too, he was just not finishing before he pulled up his britches.. may be some of both. Now he still tries to go to the potty 2 or 3 times a day. Mostly just makes a horrible mess.

I am becoming a bathroom cleaning/sanitizing pro ! Plus the outing he makes to the kitchen sink in the middle of the night.. Grrr !

But - one day that will stop... just as quick as it started. For years when he finished his meal he would take his tray to the sink, put the glass and dishes in the sink and the tray behind the faucets.
Suddenly a couple weeks ago... he just stopped. Now he leaves the tray on the table or carries it to the counter. Something changed... just like that !

My Mom took her nasty diaper off and stuff it in the tv cabinet ..
Talk about a mess.

I call this whole process adjust and adapt you never know what your going to wake up to but you just adjust and adapt to what ever it is today.

Neal had only been up a few minutes when he called up the stairs to tell me he'd "pooped" his pants and did I think he should change them?...my first thought was duh, no sit in shit but I didn't say it, I managed to tell him sweetly that would be a wonderful idea.
I am not in a good mood, not even close...my youngest daughter has been so sick and last night she actualy thought maybe she was dying so she went to the ER and got the stupidest bitch ever to get an MD...after several hours she was sent home with no meds (in this case this is probably a good idea) and no diagnosis...
So today she had another "episode" and her boyfriend took her to the ER and told her they would stay there all winter if that is what it took to get her to go inside...she finaly gave in and my doctor was on duty...he still isnt' sure what is wrong, besides a honkin huge infection in her throat, tonsils, adnoids that whole area is just a total mess but he thinks the real problem is she may be having seizures that are stress related...my number two daughter is epileptic and I had seizures as a kid so this is possible...at least he is doing something...did a CAT scan and said that looked good, gave her some meds to reduce stress and wants to see her friday..if she has any more of these things he'll order a MRI...in the mean time I'm going freakin nuts.

Oh my! I can't think of anything else to say other than hang in there. Hopefully everything will turn out for the best for you and your daughter. Big hug is sent your way. Let us know how it all pans out.

I sure hope your daughter gets better soon.

Winter sees the doctor tomorrow morning and I'm going wiht her...the meds he gave her to clam her down and reduce chance of seizures she can't take, she has a very low tolerance for meds like that, she takes one and sleeps for 24 hours or more then wakes up like a bear coming out of hibernation and even those who love her dearest want to shoot her, and of course you cannot work if your almost comatose, have no idea where she gets that from...I take that crap and I might as well be drinking water for all the effect it has on me most times...
It is raining so hard right now I feel like I should be building an ark, at least I have plenty of water for those surprise clean ups...trying to find that damn silver lining...

Last week my hubby pooped in a wastebasket on the sunporch (during the day and god only knows who saw him) and also pooped in the bathroom in a wastebasket. He pees everywhere, in the tv center, in a doll cabinet, in my closet, on the sunporch, in the living room on the carpet in the corner, in wastebaskets in every room in the house.

I have to make a "pee search" at least twice a day. Don't know how much longer I can do this without help.

Also, he still resists taking a shower; went a month or longer without one, but finally got him in the shower a few days ago.

I think we are walking the same path right now. My husb wears
Depends and booster pads, but still pees out.. but it's the pooping thing that is getting to me.

I ask myself that question every day.. "How much longer... How much
more can I take...

I can get my husband in the shower every day.. he balks, but goes.

It is comforting to know we are not alone on this long, hard, sad
difficult journey.