Alzheimer's Disease Support Group
Alzheimer's disease (AD) is the most common cause of dementia and characterized by progressive cognitive deterioration with declining activities of daily living and neuropsychiatric symptoms or behavioral changes. An early symptom is memory loss (amnesia), usually manifesting as minor forgetfulness that becomes pronounced with illness progression, with relative...
I'm so tired I feel ready to collapse and then who will be there for my husband and my mom? She came out of hospital in worse shape than she went in but there is nothing more they can do. She does have the help of personal support workers but I'm constantly getting calls and am expected to be there instantly, an hour's drive away from my house.
I like to go in to give hubby breskfast but if I do that I'm late getting to my mom's. I have an eye appointment for myself that I already postponed once yet I'm supposed to somehow get her to a doctor today, the same day as mine. I need my cataracts done and thought with him in a nursing home I would have time to do that but no such luck.
.I don't expect any solutions here but just wanted to write. It seems everything comes at once, even my good friend and supporter's husband is in the hospital so she has less time for me.
Will it get better?? I really don't know.
I like to go in to give hubby breskfast but if I do that I'm late getting to my mom's. I have an eye appointment for myself that I already postponed once yet I'm supposed to somehow get her to a doctor today, the same day as mine. I need my cataracts done and thought with him in a nursing home I would have time to do that but no such luck.
.I don't expect any solutions here but just wanted to write. It seems everything comes at once, even my good friend and supporter's husband is in the hospital so she has less time for me.
Will it get better?? I really don't know.
Is there anyone who can help out with your mom? Another relative who could stop in once a week? Or can you prioritize your mother's needs? Let the aid know that you can't come every day and that they have to help you out.
Another thought is can you stay over at your mom's once in a while to save the driving? An hour doesn't seem like a lot until you are exhausted.
Hope you can find some calm in the storm.
I agree with Tigg2, you must prioritize right now since it is impossible to do everything yourself and also delegate what you can to others.
Hubby is being taken care of so maybe just temporarily you need to just take care of you and your Mom. Just remember, "this too shall pass".
Hugs....Carolyn
I have decided with heavy heart not to go in to see my husband this morning and go straight to my mom's. If I have to I will cancel my eye appointment which may mean a charge but who cares.
My mom needs to see the doctor today or it may be too late by the time of her Monday appointment.
As I was writing this, her friend called and offered to help today but it's too much for her to take my mom on her own.
We have no relatives. That's what makes this so hard.
Staying over at my mom's is not an option as there is nowhere for me to sleep and I'm already waking every 2 hours with all this stress.
Thanks for your support. I will try my best to take it an hour at a time. On top of everything else we are having terrible stormy weather- at least it's not snow! It's pouring rain and dark as night which makes driving no pleasure.
own health in the process.
You do need to take a day off and look after yourself. Please do it.
Sending good vibes your way.
Tomorrow I hope to get to my folk dance class and then spend some time with my husband whom I have been neglecting for weeks now.
My mom is agreeing to a long term care application and I hope to bring her close to me. It would be great if she could get into the same nursing home as my husand but there is a very long waiting list.
Thanks again for all your support. You gals are great.