perhaps letting him see how he can't care for things/himself etc-perhaps having him go stay with you for a weekend..in a way he is lucky that you do have the room and willing to take him in..
Is there another relative or friend of the family that could move in with him?

I have already tried the letting him take care of himself bit. He just let's everything go and doesn't care. I have forced him to come stay with me when he had the flu last year. As soon as he was able to walk he made me take him home.

He has brothers, but they all live out of town. They are no help. My youngest daughter from Florida is here visiting and helping me with him currently. Wish she could stay?

This stage of Alzheimer's is really awful. While they are more or less able to do "some" things... they don't make good decisions and can really create a mess.
If you have financial POA perhaps you should talk to his bank and restrict how much cash he can withdraw... or you may have to stop it altogether. It is also possible to talk with Soc Security and have yourself made his "payee". You do have to make a yearly accounting of the monies but it is not a difficult thing to do.
Don't try to tackle ALL the issues at once. Take then on one at a time.
Good luck to you while you navigate this long, hard journey with your dad.

Hi Does he have a case worker assigned to him through his doctor? My mom was diagnosed this spring and through her treating doctor's office, she was given a case worker. The case worker has been a great resource for us in terms of just learning what's out there for support and navigating some things.

My mom is 69 and in the relatively early stages of the disease but her main issue right now is that she can't manage her finances, something that she was very good at and took a lot of pride in before she got sick. And she has worked so hard to save and invest money. She gets very confused and panic stricken and ends up paying bills twice or not paying them at all. She has plenty of money coming in via her pension and social security and she also has a very healthy bank account but she's afraid to spend a dime because she thinks she's losing all her money. Fortunately she has come to realize, through several missteps that ended up costing her several 1000 dollars, that she can't handle her finances at this point and has turned that over to me and my brothers. We set up a system at her home where she takes her daily mail and puts it in a box we designated that sits on her desk. We wrote on the box PUT MAIL HERE. It took her a while but she has now gotten in the habit of doing that. The few exceptions are when her anxiety is high and then she wants to open everything and then gets freaked out if something looks like a bill. But my brother goes to her house once a week and they open the mail together. Then they sort the junk from the bills. She still writes the checks for the bills but my brother is there to help her. We also have access to her bank account on-line so we can see her account information on line. This lets us check her account regularly to see if she's writing any strange checks or taking out tons of money via ATM, although she can't drive any longer so that hasn't been an issue. If you can do that, it may help you keep better track of your dad's activities. It's really like keeping an eye on a child.

My mom also had a hard time remembering the meds. We set up a pill box and alarms and the whole nine yards and she was still messing that up. My brother came up with some goofy system but it works for her so she's been doing well for a couple of months now with taking all her medication.

My family is all so new to this and it's so overwhelming and we've had to try several different things sometimes to make certain things stick, but it's easier when you break things down into smaller chunks and tackle things an issue at a time, like Jamr41 mentioned.

I'm sorry you don't have more support or help, to take some of the burden off your shoulders. But try to find resources in your area to help you manage some of this, or give you some ideas. Talk to your dad's doctor about your concerns and how you may have to transition him at some point. My friend's mom has dementia and is in assisted living. The doctor is the one that laid out a plan for when it will be time for her mom to go in assisted living. The plan was, if you can no longer manage X, Y and Z, you will need to be in assisted living for your own safety. That took the burden off my friend so it didn't look like she was being the bad guy. My friends mom took it better coming from her doctor than coming from my friend.

I have tried almost everything without any success. My dad only has an eighth grade education. he has never been a very organized person. I have tried to get him to pick the bill in a box and we do them together he doesnt try to remeber anything and goes ahead and pays. them without me.I have tried to set up telephone reminders for his medication, but he still ingors them. I have read a lot but nothing I try works with him.

hospice and other organizations similar do have people who can go in and assist your father-have you tried contacting someone with them?

Not yet. Meet with his doctor this week and will speak with her about it. Thanks

good luck because organizations like hospice can be very helpful both to the patient and the family

Good luck to you, I have been through it, and had to call social services. It was a long hard journey but now mom is in a nursing home, and I could never have done what they are doing now. I am an only child also and almost died trying to take care of my mom.