Alzheimer's Disease Support Group
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I would like some opinions/advice, you all know my difficulties with Rollie' s family. I have a dilema and outside input would be nice. Rollie just talked to his sister, 62 and this time I could hear what she was saying, anyway, she told him that they (her boyfriend, his mom, hateful daughter one, hateful daughter and son who doesn't call but isn't mean) are planning to come here for Rollie's birthday. They have said nothing to me about this yet. So...what to do? Let them come but be specific and say NO Alcohol, let them come as if nothing as happened, say okay we'll meet you at some restaurant.........other ideas? tell them to drop dead?
PS- the last time they were here they went through 144 beers and 2 large jugs of wine in 2.5 days (that averages about 16 -18 beers a person per day). They became mildly belligerent in the evening and sister ended up SCREAMING at Mother in the trailer at 10:00 clock at night.
PPS- his daughters have contacted him once since his heart attack over a year ago. When they came to visit him in the hospital they hardly talked to him , just to each other and one daughter spent the whole visit texting her husband.
Maybe it's dumb of me to ask you all this but I want to do the right thing for Rollie who has only a few years left.
PS- the last time they were here they went through 144 beers and 2 large jugs of wine in 2.5 days (that averages about 16 -18 beers a person per day). They became mildly belligerent in the evening and sister ended up SCREAMING at Mother in the trailer at 10:00 clock at night.
PPS- his daughters have contacted him once since his heart attack over a year ago. When they came to visit him in the hospital they hardly talked to him , just to each other and one daughter spent the whole visit texting her husband.
Maybe it's dumb of me to ask you all this but I want to do the right thing for Rollie who has only a few years left.
Their last visit at your home was too disturbing for you and him to
ever welcome them again. Just tell them it makes him too nervous to have them in your driveway.
Meet in a restaurant or driveway (good idea), keep your eye on Rollie and when he's starts to get fidgety or nervous, get up and leave. He doesn't need all that mess and you sure as heck don't.