So so sorry; that is the absolute worst. My hubby has a neurogenic bowel and bladder so accidents have been a huge part of our lives for over 25 years. I think the most I had was three BMs in a day so I absolutely understand the frustration. Even though he now has a suprapubic tube in his bladder he frequently gets the tubing kinked or ends up forgetting to lock the bag which usually means his clothes, shoes and socks get drenched along with my carpet when he is leaving the bathroom going into the bedroom. Almost as bad is when he is in bed and he accidentally (I think) unlocks the bag then all his clothes and the linens all need to be changed.

I have lost my temper a few times even though I really don't think it is deliberate. It is just so much work.

He recently has started some physical therapy and seeing a chiropractor and even though he is paraplegic, it seems to have helped him to sense when he has to move his bowels. I also limit him to two pieces of fruit a day and not too much chocolate or he gets diarrhea.

We certainly do have challenging lives.......hugs and prayers and hopes for a better day tomorrow......Jeanmarie

My husband had several accidents a few months ago, probably due to radiation for prostrat cancer. I tried imodium, every once in a while, and it helped but not completely. My daughter is a nurse and suggested giving him one a day, so I did and he has had no accidents since. I asked the dr about it and he said it was fine. He had to wear depends before.

Oh, this post is almost funny. In our house, the main topic of conversation is "Pooping". My husband has chronic constipation from years of using laxatives and now pain meds do the same thing. He is always in the bathroom trying to go and can't. when we go out, he is afraid of having an accident so he wants to go to every bathroom he sees. He doesn't get around well, uses a walker and this is sooo hard. the doors are usually hard to open and we never get anything done because he is in the bathroom most of the time. He eats fruit all the time, loves chocolate, even eats prunes and bran. he is also on water pills and they wont give him a supra pubic cath. I got urology to give him some condom catheters but he has yet to try them. He is not big on new things . also I bought him depends to wear since he is afraid of having an accident, but he has yet to put them on either. I'm about to give up.

Rginger300.....just wanted to say that immodium is great stuff. I have had radiation for anal cancer and have a LOT of trouble with my own bowels. Immodium works wonders and am also told it will not harm you.

My sister in-law takes 2 fiber capsules and 2 immodium every morning just to keep her on an even keel after having a colostomy reversed. she always had diahhrea. I myself go 4-5 times every morning. If more than that, I take 1/2 immodium and it stops. i can't eat fruit and I suspected chocolate too. salad is a killer for me. Isn't life grand!!??

A much better day today. I went to my weekly activity, my husband went to his program and no poopy pants so far so life is good!

glad it got better...THAT was a VERY bad day....many hugs

That was a horrible day. Poopy, stinky pants....... gag~~~~ Immodium! There it is in the bathroom cabinet. Duh.

I cannot believe that this is all the way we live today, and that our husbands bowel movements are the topic of our conversations, but that is the way it is for us. No wonder we are all about nuts!. My husband has not had poopy pants yet but I know it is just around the corner. He, too, spends a lot of time in the bathroom, especially when we are away from home.

I had to laugh when I read your comment Dibbie. I remember when my parents were getting older and so bowel fixated, I told my husband if I ever get to that point just shoot me. Here I am now with some of my dear cyber friends and "poop" is frequently the topic of our conversations. Life sure is funny.........but not really!

It is just the "shits".

My mother has terrible time going to the bathroom. She is always constipated. She does not drink enough water.
I go see her at the home 2 times a day and I make her go to the bathroom. Today she was just sitting there I had to help her that is so discussing! She seem to forget that she has to push! The things we have to go! I can't count on the aid to do it, they just change her when they feel like it.