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A close friend has been talking about suicide :(

shyloner
shyloner
I wont name names obviously, but lately I've been pretty worried about a close friend of mine. I've actually never met him in person but we've known each other from a different site for a long time. Well lately (like within the past year or two) I've noticed he seems more and more depressed. I know he's bipolar but especially in the past 8 months or so he just seems to be getting more and more depressed... And yeah, lately he's been talking a lot about suicide and always talking negatively about himself. He's been really down on himself and hard on himself and I don't really know why. I got him once to tell me about some girl he knew a long time ago but he wouldn't tell me much. I don't know what to do... I mean, its not like I haven't had to talk people down from suicide (and as far as I know always succeeded or they changed their minds for other reasons). This just keeps getting worse.

He doesn't live near by so its not like I can just hop on a bus and go visit him...
shyloner
shyloner
Apparently no one cares so I'll bore you a little more :P

It eventually got so bad that I contacted a relative of his through facebook (turned out to be his niece whom I HOPE doesn't go telling him I told on him). He's still alive and kicking and for some reason believes no one cares and everyone hates him..
violetmist
violetmist
I care. I am glad you told a relative. I hope he gets the help he needs.
Group FounderroseBud23
roseBud23
It's hard to witness someone you care about have those feelings. It can be a damning feeling as it takes darkness to attract more darkness. I hope he seeks help and is able to see things in a different way. Light can drive out darkness, however it takes an open heart (not necessary an open mind) to find that light.

Ask him if he would be willing to speak to God about his issues, it couldn't hurt. I'm not talking about prayer (he doesn't need to know any fancy prayers) just talking to God about his problems and see if that brings any light. In the end, bad it could not do.

Good luck to your friend and to you as well for being so empathetic.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
If the guy has a plan to commit suicide then he probably will do it and there is nothing you can do to stop him. It becomes a matter of when. He needs help and alot more then any of us here can give him. You are already doing more for the poor guy then anybody else would or could.

DS tells us that if someone is suicidal to call the cops. I could never figure out what calling the cops about someone in, say, Australia, is going to do to help! So I just try to give that person as much support as I can and that usually helps.

I think just tell him that suicide is not an option, it's a long term solution to a temporary problem. That usually works for me.

Good Luck!
shyloner
shyloner
He's been there for me through a lot.. he's been in my shoes plenty of times.. but I am worried about him. He seems worse lately than usual... So far, luckily he hasn't actually gone through with it (he keeps putting it off which makes me curious as to why he's being this way at all).

I don't know for sure that this has anything to do with his romantic life. His wife, whom he had been with for a VERY long time (they met when they were pretty young) died a few years before I met him and he's been more or less single since then. He's made strange vague references to some girl from his past that was friends with his wife and to some guy whom he never explained their relationship (As far as I know, he's straight) I don't remember the guys name, just the context in which he brought him up was just odd.
annieheart
annieheart
All you can do is be his friend and pray.Somethings that are not in our controll and all we can do is turn to prayer.
andy2011
andy2011
You must take your friend seriously. Been there before. This is the last cry for help.

Please have him visit the following group. there are articles where to seek help and please have him join in.

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/vow-to-live-glbt-against-suicide

Please read it yourself. I believe it is helpful.

Best regards and thanks for sharing this with us.

Prayers indeed!
Andy
andy2011
andy2011
Please shaw this link with your friend:

http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/vow-to-live-glbt-against-suicide/news/view/2163649

Good luck.
Andy
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