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work...not to be a downer, sorry :)

Ashley8888
Ashley8888
So, I am learning that after work on Sat. and Sundays everyone gets a free drink (I am a server, but working AM as to try aviod the party crowd) and this group is much milder, but of course some still drink,anyways this one girl asked me if I was going to stay and have a drink...I told her I was busy and had tons to do....well she acted like she was offended....I dont know, I felt kinda bad...I mean I know I did the right thing and I feel good about that but I would also like to get to know the people I work with too....this girl is an artist and seems pretty interesting...ahhhh.....I guess I'll get over it.....and just give things at work time...
I guess I am just not used to bonding with anyone without a drink in my hand and I need to work on that...Its kinda hard...
Anyone else felt this way?
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes! funny that you bring this up, I was just invited to a woman's house for wine and cheese party....I want to mingle but had to pass. It is hard but life sober needs to be about these types of sacrifices if we are going to make it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yes, I've avoided outings and family reunions if I thought there would be too much alcohol. If a number of people in your group are not drinkers, you would have a shot at socializing with them. If they all drink though, then steer clear - it's a losing proposition to go out with a crowd like that.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't know Ashley!

I still have a problem hanging with drinkers. But I've been where you are. It's awkward.. Glad you didn't drink. Maybe when you get to know your co-workers better, it will be easier. I'll bet it will:)
Gr8ful
Gr8ful
If I am out socially, at a party etc and someone asks me do I want a drink I say yes please may I have a lemonaide, or a water, or even a cup of tea. I have come to learn that people need to see guests with a drink in their hand to believe they are a good host/hostess. Everytime I have done this the host either gets the drink/tells me where to get one. Not once have I had to argue the are you sure you wouldnt like a whiskey/wine/beer. Occassionaly they may ask if I want anything harder but if I say no a lemonaide is fine then in my experience they leave it at that.

G8
deleted_user
deleted_user
Until you are totally capable of being around people who are drinking without it bothering you, you need to avoid those stuations.
Next time just say I don't drink, but I'd love to get together over coffe.
lisa1235
lisa1235
i find some sacrafices well worth it and this seems to be one.one of my biggest acomplishments in recovery was being able to run in people i use to party with and say i dont do that anymore and went about my day unquestioning did i do the right thing or was i missing something.after that now i do care who i share my principles .i dont want alcohol and drugs in my life.i have no pride when it comes to this and am unashamed to admit it to anyone.when youre able to share that you dont drink and why ..you'll begin to see other people do have understanding to this and do other things with them.those who dont arent worth youre consideration anyway.so either either gain or loss you won youre sobriety still..good job saying no..
deleted_user
deleted_user
I use too but working the steps and the program, I can be around it if I have too, I usually choose not too, but if it is important event like with my work I usually go, talk a bit, pick up my certificate and go home.
m8bear
m8bear
Maybe you could say you would love to chat but could you go somewhere else for coffee as you get fed up of your work place and you like a 'change of scenery' when you finish your shift?
drunCo
drunCo
at the bar i work at we also get a shift drink. i've found that telling people i've quit drinking works. after a while they stop asking, they'll wait for you to come around. every so often someone will be a jerk and put a drink down in front of me(we have very little supervision, i'm talking about the G.M. starting drinking at ten in the morning). i've gotten fall down drunk with hours and hours left to go in my work day, i would decide before i got there how drunk i was going to get that day.

just keep saying no. no is a very powerful word. they'll understand and let you be, it's always up to you to keep yourself sober, temptation is nothing, sobriety everything.