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Hello everyone! I wanted to post here and ask about my husbands drinking and would like some advice. He drinks tall cans of high alcohol content beer every day after work until he cant even hardly walk and passes out on the couch in front of our 3 children and before that he sometimes gets verbally abusive..Anyway we have been fighting everytime I get tired of it again and he acts as if we should just go right back to being happy again...He stops drinking a few days and is back at it again. He says he will get into a program but never does. Our kids are 9,7 and 2. This is all they've ever known. Will he ever change? Doesn't he know what a different person he is when hes drunk? He says he loves me and has good intentions...but I feel so confused by his personalities. He tells our 7 yr. Old that shes hot but he has also told our son before that all women are stupid. How can he say those things while drunk and say he didn't mean it later..how is a wife supposed to deal with that? And he falls asleep with our daughter in her bed on occasions while hes drunk and though hes just sleeping, is this dangerous? I mean even I wouldn't think he would be improper but alcohol is a crazy substance I'm still learning about...
Or course he acts like it isn't that bad, he wants to keep drinking and he wants you to leave him alone about it, so he manipulates you.
It IS that bad. Have you talked to a family counselor or someone from AA? Please talk to a real person, not just on the internet.
Of course he has a good side, but right now he's a drunk, and if he can't manage his own life, he certainly can't manage somebody elses. Do not look to him for direction or approval. He's not your dad and he's not your boss.
You are right, you cannot help him, so use your energy to make a safe, peaceful life for you and your children. When he's ready to change, he'll find the help he needs.
Good for you for setting up an appointment and thinking about your options. You have more power than you understand.
Why are you having to go to the shelter - you and the children are the victims (as is he - a victim of alcohol, and I agree only he can learn to free himself of that grasp). Aren't the laws in his favor - can't you get him out, and keep him out with a restraining order? This is how it would work in my part of the world.
Just had to ask - I only want the best for you all. Peace.. lr
If I were you, I would arrange for an intervention immediately. Someone other than you needs to confront him with what he is doing.
Your husband either needs to shape up or leave. That can be difficult for a woman with 3 kids to think about - but please start to put a plan together - start finding resources for yourself and good luck.