Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
I was married to a man for 23 years. He turned alcoholic and that ended the marriage. We’ve now been divorced for 20 years but we’re very good friends.
He was sober for 22 years but relapsed 2 or 3 years ago. Since then, there’s been periods of sobriety but several relapses, too. He never liked AA but did finally join and found that he did like it. He made amends to me and the kids so I know he at least got to that step. I don’t know if he got any further. He did not get a permanent sponsor for some reason but had a temporary one. I’m not positive but I don’t think they stay in contact. He’s reduced his meetings from 3 or 4 times per week to 1 or 2 per week, mostly just a single meeting.
Tonight he’s completely wasted. I’m not upset; this has been his pattern since his first relapse. He’s now on day 4. He’ll sober up again and then he’ll relapse again in another 2 or 3 months. It’s what he does.
But why? What causes it?
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So mad at Xfinity! They're trying to charge me $115 per month for the same service I had been paying $50 the last four years. I took the equipment to UPS for shipping and cancelled my subscription today! Next door was a cookie shop called Crumbl. I had heard of it before but never went in until today. I don't need one more sugar fix, but maybe it will help with my sad) grieving heart....$15...
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
As long as your husband believes that someday, someway, he will be able to control his drinking, he will continue to attempt to drink responsibly, only to find that the "phenomenon of craving" takes over and once again he finds himself completely wasted.
"This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change (mental change) there is very little hope of his recovery".
"On the other hand - and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand - once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of every solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules." (BB 4th edition pg xxix)
Those "simple rules" are the Twelve Steps of recovery.
To answer your question....here is something they gave us while I was in outpatient treatment:
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/alcoholism/discussion/factors-associated-with-relapse
We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
God Bless
I get in trouble I go to a meeting.
Is he now pissed every day ?
He might try Annie Grace's book the naked mind