By being gentle but real with yourself. Sounds like you are ready.

Maybe seeking out some help would benefit you. I'm only at the begining of sobriety and I can tell you that reaching out for help has been a MAJOR help on this end.

This is a great place to get good advice and great support, but I would use other tools that are out there to help yourself.

Best of luck, and keep your head high!

I chased the why for along time but in the end it really didn't matter.
If I pick up the first drink, it not me makes the rest of my choices. The why doesn't matter.
The only soultion is avoid one drink one day at a time. But I've been down to one minute at a time before.
Start over at a meeting!

If you are an alcoholic, the place that you are in the place that you are is actually really positive because hopefully, you are finally teachable and may actually recover.

If you are an alcoholic go to AA work the programme and reover.

Good luck!

I guess the first thing to do is stop drinking, or 'put the plug in the jug' as someone so eloquently put it the other day.
If you need help to stop, see your doc, get some meds like camparal. Sudden cessation of drinking can cause a fit or worse. It can kill.
Try to stay busy, avoid all the usual hangouts (like bars!), avoid anything that triggers a response in you to want alcohol.
If you have booze in the house - chuck it out. If you have a partner that drinks, ask them not to do it around you.
Deep breathing and relaxation will help with withdrawal.

Finally, remember you are not the only one going through this, reach out, ask for help and support. Make use of DS, there are wonderful people here who understand how it is.

Good Luck!

Craig

I'm new to this but I know exactly how you feel. My family life is crazy but I do think this site helps by getting it out. Good luck, and remember you ain't alone

You start over by going back to basics. Stop drinking and find something that calms you during the crazy times (other than a drug). Take time out for yourself to go for a walk or go to an AA meeting if necessary. We all need time to be quiet and re-group, but most of us don't take it.....instead we drink! Find the time.

I found that my family life & my own life became less insane sober.

Booze=drama. Take away the booze, a lot of drama goes with it in my experience and all you're left with is =. hee hee..

Things that I used to find earth shattering are now no big deal at all...

Read through some posts on here and you might find some that you can relate to...good luck to ya! :)

Hi boisk... I know how you feel. I just joined the group today and I feel guilt ritten after a weekend of drinking. I do to have a problem with drinking and I have to respect myself enough now to give it up, or my life is going to continue in this downward spiral... :(

well you ask (WHY) am i such a drunk the million dollar awnser is because you LIKE to drink amazingly its that simple for all of us drunks.you find folks who have all kinds of phychobabble exscuses but bottom line the are alcoholics and like to drink it dont matter that mom beat ya dad raped ya blah blah blah add naseum hey we are alcoholics and LIKE to drink.now going at the problem from that perspective makes it a lot simpler to fix Tom

Go to a meeting and talk to another drunk!

One of the first things I ever heard about alcoholics is that they have a feeling disease.

The reason we drink, primarily, is that we like the effect alcohol has on us.

Sounds like you may have an obsession of the mind that only a Vital Spiritual Experience can allay.

Become willing to go to any length to have a spiritual experience and have that obsession removed.

just by posting on this site you have already made an impact for yourself and for everyone here.
I found the first day of not drinking to be the hardest, minute by minute but I knew that I wanted my peace back, or at least the opportunity to feel peace and that wasn't coming from drinking anymore. the first morning after not drinking the day before was really exciting and I knew that I was on the right path. not drinking really simplifies your life and all that insanity will slip away. start over now by knowing you have so much support here. go to a meeting, pray, do anything except drink. g

don't get sober, everything is worse when you're not drunk.