Compost, further to that, I have had a warning in the last few months but no advice as to which thread or post it related to. I politely asked DS which it did refer to and they told me that as soon as they advise a member of the warning, they delete the offending material so they can no longer tell you!! lol

Maybe it's because of system limitations, but it makes it very hard to establish what mistake I made so that I can stop doing it in future - I'm in heaps of different groups and post widely so there's no chance I'd know.

So in the end I was just left hanging, wondering if I was in imminent peril of being banned, but not know why.

It's like in real life getting a fine from the Police but them not telling me for what!! lol

I agree with carebear64....I think you wrapped it up in a nuttshell!

One of the more difficult things I've had to deal with on that other website is explaining to someone that a critique of their church or their ideology is not an attack on them personally, and hence it does not justify a retaliation in kind. People can be surprisingly immature in this respect, and it has been quite a revelation to me to discover it.

I concur: Carebear hit the nail on the head with much insight and honesty.

Wendy, that is so funny about the police situation.
Years ago I called 911 because this man I hardly knew started going wacko on me. The cops came ( handsome, young men- be still my heart)and one said, "Uh, Mam, do you know you have an outstanding warrant?" I had no clue and asked for what reason. They said they didn't know but it was old and to take care of it on Monday.
So I Monday I went to take care of it.
It was $290
Again, I asked what it was for.
They told me they didn't know because it was too old.
I asked how can they put a charge on something they don't even know what they are charging me for?
Didn't matter. They ended up making me go thru the booking procedure.
I told the woman doing my prints that I felt like I was a frickin criminal.
She said I was.
Too much.

I will say this, this site is the best one for recovery from alcohol that I've found. I left another one due to blatant racism. Being a political creature I was incensed on one sight to have my posts entirely deleted and got sick of reading their sloppy journalism. People on the political sight were like children in the forums. Guess I haven't had any problems here because all I share is my esh. How boring if there was no controversy here.

Lock step hey CD? Well after all you do live in Germany!

DT, if I'll be willing to lower my standards we might live in the States one day.

DT -- why don't you post your discussion in the Daily Strength community thread:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Members_Community/forum/9231411-introduction-community

That's the forum for this type of discussion, as opposed to this one, the Alcoholism Support Group. Looks like lots of "the powers that be" participate in that board. Maybe you can have your questions answered there or promote whatever change you are looking for.

Getting a lot of agreement (or not) on this board isn't going to do anything except to get a lot of people agreeing (or not.) You aren't going to change a thing by posting threads like this here, except possibly distracting people trying to come to terms with their alcoholism.