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Weekends are hard for me. Usually I'm just on a diet. My husband loves to cook. He also loves to drink. I could be good all week with my diet and then I blow it on the weekend. With food or cocktails. Now I have both things.
I'm not so obsessed about the diet. I'm just always trying to lose 10lbs. But now I have committed not to drinking.
DAY BY DAY MINUTE BY MINUTE HOUR BY HOUR.
I have my excuse in my head of what to say when someone offers me a drink. Or "my drinking self" tries to offer me a drink.
It's not realistic for me to not be around it. I've tried to get my husband to stop drinking before or at least not around me. But we are homebodies and if he is going to drink I don't want him out & then driving home. This is his home. He should do what he wants.
At 21 years of marriage he knows how I am with drinking. He thinks it's a problem sometimes but has never said for me to quit. When I've said I need to quit to him or event that I AM quitting he never really helps me.
He feels like I should be able to have a few drinks each week. He feels if I don't have a few drinks and I wait for a couple a weeks that I will end up in a BIG BENDER. Maybe he is right.
Anyway my question is for this weekend. What does everyone do to stay busy ? What do you tell yourself and others if asked to drink?
I'm not so obsessed about the diet. I'm just always trying to lose 10lbs. But now I have committed not to drinking.
DAY BY DAY MINUTE BY MINUTE HOUR BY HOUR.
I have my excuse in my head of what to say when someone offers me a drink. Or "my drinking self" tries to offer me a drink.
It's not realistic for me to not be around it. I've tried to get my husband to stop drinking before or at least not around me. But we are homebodies and if he is going to drink I don't want him out & then driving home. This is his home. He should do what he wants.
At 21 years of marriage he knows how I am with drinking. He thinks it's a problem sometimes but has never said for me to quit. When I've said I need to quit to him or event that I AM quitting he never really helps me.
He feels like I should be able to have a few drinks each week. He feels if I don't have a few drinks and I wait for a couple a weeks that I will end up in a BIG BENDER. Maybe he is right.
Anyway my question is for this weekend. What does everyone do to stay busy ? What do you tell yourself and others if asked to drink?
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When I'm having an emotional crisis and feel I'm going to fall, I'll go to a movie theater alone and get wrapped up in a good movie. It's so loud in there, I cannot hear my thoughts, which is good for me sometimes. Usually after time has passed, I am ok.
Right now, I am telling people I just don't drink anymore for my health because I feel better an sleep better. I'm sticking to that story for now.
I also am in the process of finding a new therapist near me.
Hey, I'm happy you are back. Huggles, nikki
I also find the nearest AA meeting and discuss what it is that is driving me to want a drink
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A couple of years ago when I went to counseling for my drinking, the therapist's main advice was to "shake up your routine." At the time I was too mired in work and other things and didn't really know what she meant nor embrace it.
But now that I significantly shaken up my life, and found this group, I am finding it almost effortless not to drink. No one is more shocked than I am!
In terms of what to tell people as a reason for not drinking, I like either 1) I am trying to lose a little weight and drinking makes it even harder! or, 2) I learned I am alcohol intolerant and it has a negative affect on my skin and blood pressure, so my doctor told me I should avoid it. They are really needing a reason to make themselves feel OK with their drinking, so responses like this gives them the OK to drink without guilt if they want to...
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Finding something to do that works for you is key. I have started doing a running program to get fit again and shed a few pounds. It's called c25k and you can get free apps for it that run on smart phones. That's just one suggestion. Try doing something you always wanted to try but never thought you had the time for. Like say Ice Skating for example or maybe a college night course. The world is your oyster now you are sober. Hope that helps. Goo luck and stay strong :)
I really have developed High Blood pressure. So I use that in my arsenal now. It's easy and truthful.
A couple weeks ago I took my BP and it was down. This weekend I took it and it was back up. I thought I cured myself with Meditation and no drinking. I guess I'm just going to keep monitoring it now. See if it goes back down. Could be stress.
As far as something to do. I'm keeping pretty busy. I have so much school work for the class I teach and the class I take. Sadly this keeps me from my joyful reading. I also have meditation. I have my convertible which I am taking advantage of driving around while the weather is nice. I have also been looking up any free festivals I can go to. Tis the season.
Thanks for all the input. Your advice is as always priceless.
Not that I have mastered this, but when feeling overwhelmed or demoralized at life, take deep breaths, maybe meditate, listen to soothing music, light a lavender candle, go for a walk - anything to relieve the anxiety BESIDES reaching for a drink!