Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
Trying to Force Solutions
As I kept coming back and started to learn how everybody has a higher power who has a plan for their life and that plan is based on God's perfect timing. I realize that by trying to "force solutions" to the problems caused by alcoholism in my family, I was basically getting in the way of God's plan and God's timing.
Because my timing and my thinking did not line up with God's perfect plan and perfect timing, it was by definition "distorted." Because I reasoned that things should happen MY way when I wanted them to -- without giving any consideration to what God's plan and timing might happen to be -- I was being unreasonable without even knowing that I was doing so.
So now, thank goodness, when I see a situation that I think needs to be "fixed" I pray about it, and turn in over to God. And if it doesn't change immediately, or doesn't turn out the way I planned it, I know now I have to accept that it will or will not happen according to God's plan and in his timing for their lives.
God didn't go on vacation and leave me in charge. Everyone has a higher power and it's not me!
-- BuddyT
As I kept coming back and started to learn how everybody has a higher power who has a plan for their life and that plan is based on God's perfect timing. I realize that by trying to "force solutions" to the problems caused by alcoholism in my family, I was basically getting in the way of God's plan and God's timing.
Because my timing and my thinking did not line up with God's perfect plan and perfect timing, it was by definition "distorted." Because I reasoned that things should happen MY way when I wanted them to -- without giving any consideration to what God's plan and timing might happen to be -- I was being unreasonable without even knowing that I was doing so.
So now, thank goodness, when I see a situation that I think needs to be "fixed" I pray about it, and turn in over to God. And if it doesn't change immediately, or doesn't turn out the way I planned it, I know now I have to accept that it will or will not happen according to God's plan and in his timing for their lives.
God didn't go on vacation and leave me in charge. Everyone has a higher power and it's not me!
-- BuddyT
turn it over , get out of your own way and "of course' relinquish control (cooperate) "if something doesnt make sense Ha!! Ask questions after the meeting"
Billy
I've now got friends and family members who know about the passage in the big book and will remind me that I am "not the director" when I get frustrated over things that are out of my control. lol!
"Accept the things I cannot change and the wisdom to know the difference!" Amen to that.
I go by the principles of the serenity prayer - change what I can and accept what I can't.
Yes, it is essential for me to accept the things I have no control over. As far as changing the things I can, I am only responsible for the effort I put into making those changes. The outcome is in God's hands.
This is what works for me.
~Chris