Bob, I've always found the hardest things to let go of are the things I really do not understand. Unfortunately in dealing with my feelings it creates a facade of the reasons I am angry, and though I cant always discount my feelings I can at least invest some time in looking at it for other angles.

I have been real fortunate during alot of these letting go times-reevaluating my the emotional investment times, to have had others to bounce it off of preferably someone open to the possibilities leaving claw marks on my emotional state it leaves as I'm not willing to accept it may be far older than jusTT the issue at hand!

I hear you a 100% here maybe do some investigating of things like ACOA's laundry list and give yourself a break and try and see it from a different light!

Oh maybe xa speakers and listen to a Bob E tape or read some Leo Busgaglia Or better yet watch some on Father demello's tapes on u tube here's some links in case your not in a follow up sorta mood I know how that is....
Luv ya Buddy:)

http://xa-speakers.org/pafiledb.php

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_1YO9EsaplY

Listen to Father Tony's tape's in order it makes for a wonderful start to the day... One each morning! I love his tape's this one is about clinging Right on the mark! I think:)))
Billy

Me too.
I know that they will pass. Hard to let them go.
So thanks okiyoe for the suggestions...
Unfortunately I'm not able to listen to songs right now. So I go inside myself, the danger is that I close my petals and the anger might stay inside as well...
talk to my God...sitting in the garden....asking and asking and asking...talking and asking and listening...and peace eventually comes...if I'm lucky....the songs of the leaves in the wind. Angry wind, peaceful songs.

I find that if I pray my heart out about a destructive feeling, and just ask God to PLEASE take it - sooner or later he/she does remove it. Just keep asking until it is gone.

At least that works for me.

What helps me is to not "judge"...to not think that we are the only ones who are "hurting"...that most likely, we should assume that anyone we meet....are going thru a hard time.

I think that some of us, assume, think...that we are the only ones suffering....that's never true.

I am a rageaholic so I can relate. I pray for the willingness to be willing to let the anger go. Sometimes that is the best that I can do.

Also I found that walking on my treadmill or cleaning something helps me a lot.

But still something I have to work on.

Hi Bob, it's great to listen to and read inspirational speakers and books. I do that a lot but I also bear in mind that my recovery demands ongoing action from me.

Freedom4Ever said something really important there - it's a spiritual discipline to refrain from judging others too harshly and making hasty assumptions. Expectations of others, by setting the bar too high, can lead to resentment, which people like us can pay a very heavy price for.

I find a daily Step 10 - self-examination - essential. There is very little I can do about other people's actions but, with God's help through prayer and meditation (Step 11) I can change the way I see things and take right action on my part.

Self-pity is destructive too so nothing helps more to take me out of wallowing in self than thinking of someone else instead and trying to be helpful and do something to make a positive difference.

That's my route Bob, God takes my anger if i put in right action. I can't do it alone.

Antonia Spiritual discipline requires both tolerance lol and understanding Without understanding all You have is judgement as you just demonstrated with your 1 only AA programming. Comparing or minimizing is the same issue Lack of understanding God can be loud and clear in the comic books if your in tune :P))
Billy

Sorry Billy, i can't understand you but don't worry about it. I'm sure your intentions are good :0)

Against my better judgement, AA aa example noooooooooooooo Oh well saint or sinner noooooooooooo weeeeeeeeeeee no correlation intended butt God does do for us What we can not do for ourselvessssss hehe
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02dLndnNJ-c
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02dLndnNJ-c

Yes! Antonia I'm sure you Don't lol More will be revealed hehe (maybe)

Hope this hellps


If you are patient in one moment of anger, you
will escape a hundred days of sorrow.
-- Chinese Proverb.

Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more
hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.
-- Seneca.

The greatest remedy for anger is delay.
-- Seneca.

For every minute you remain angry, you give
up sixty seconds of peace of mind.
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal
with the intent of throwing it at someone else;
you are the one who gets burned.
-- Buddha.

People who fly into a rage always make a bad
landing.
-- Will Rogers.

Speak when you are angry and you will make
the best speech you will ever regret.
-- Ambrose Bierce.

Consider how much more you often suffer
from your anger and grief, than from those
very things for which you are angry and
grieved.
-- Marcus Antonius.

Do not teach your children never to be angry;
teach them how to be angry.
-- Lyman Abbott.

How much more grievous are the
consequences of anger than the causes of it.
-- Marcus Aurelius.

Two things a man should never be angry at:
what he can help, and what he cannot help.
-- Thomas Fuller.

When a man is wrong and won't admit is, he
always gets angry.
-- Thomas Haliburton.

There was never an angry man that thought
his anger unjust.
-- St. Francis De Sales.

Anger is what makes a clear mind seem
clouded.
-- Kazi Shams.

No man can think clearly when his fists are
clenched.
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Are you okay? Perhaps it's better you don't try to communicate with me on someone else's discussion post. Thanks.

That's great Louis, my reply was to Billy there, just to avoid confusion.

Yes! A.... I'm fine ....Master of Mental Health!:P))

Hi Bob,

For years in AA people kept telling me I was angry - I thought they were mad because I didn't feel it. Two and a half years into sobriety I am barking mad, locked up mad and it was all due to anger. I was homicidal (only to certain people you understand, you know people who sat next to me on a bus, people who dropped litter or spat in the street, people in front and behind me in a queue etc etc) - see told you I was mad but I also decided to kill my granddaughter because I was afraid that someone would hurt her.

it really got that bad! I had been locked up for 8 months when they let me go home, it was Easter weekend 1997 and I knew that I would not return.

A few days later the penny dropped and I realised that all of this pain and suffering had ultimately been caused by resentment, which of course is anger. I knew if I didn't let it go, it was going to kill me. It was hard, but I stopped running the old resentment tape in my head, you know the one we run to keep our anger stoked so that no one was gonna hurt me any more. I put it down Bob and I asked God (HP or whatever) to help me see how I could let that go, it happened slowly but it did happen. Please make sure that you are sure that you really REALLY do want to let it go and if you do, you will.

Take care of yourself!

Lyn