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tinydancer02
tinydancer02

I haven't posted in a while. I don't get online much anymore. But I'm finding myself struggling so I thought I could use some venting,maybe some words of wisdom. It's kind of a bitch how the urge to drink never goes away. Yeah it gets better and lessens,but for me it's always there. And sometimes it comes back with a vengeance..like it has now. I get thoughts in my head sometimes that I can't always drown out. Sometimes I can manage them alright and cope with it all but other times I can't get them out of my head. And so the urge to drink and take as many pills as I can arises. Thoughts from my past that still and always will haunt me. Obviously it's all things I cannot change or undo but even after all these years I tend to fixate on all of it and it drives me crazy. I stay busy trying to keep my mind off of things. I try and stay active and healthy. But sometimes it just won't go away and then I have to fight that urge that you have in the early days of sobriety all over again. I'm proud to say though that I'm 528 days sober and counting and don't plan on having to start over. I just wish it didn't have to be such a hard fight. I wish I could not give a damn about the past,the mistakes,the pain,the loss..but I do and it brings me down. The drinking has gotten easier with time but the pain of my memories never has. 

gr8tful2be
gr8tful2be
Hi tiny. My name is Dianna. I haven’t been online much either but I couldn’t ignor your post.

First, congrats on being sober. I’m so sorry about your struggles. Have you ever checked out AA? Just wondered. I sobered up there Oct 16, ‘92 and I’ve never looked back.

Every time I shared anything about my kids, I would cry for the first couple years. The 12 Steps pulled me out of the muck and the mire of my past.

If not interested in AA; maybe work with a therapist. It might help.

I hope your days brighten up. Hugs
1is2many
1is2many
My experience is the more I think about something the more I think about it. The way I got happy was to dig back thru all the painful times and talk about them with a therapist. By opening the book and talking about them and what was My part. Sure others wronged me but most of it was my doing. My drinking, my putting myself in bad places, me. So by owning and then forgiving myself I was able to move along.

Also the important thing is to have a plan when these thoughts come up. Is it calling a close friend and talking, saying a prayer, going for a walk?

Stop fighting and just let yourself to be happy, it is ok to be happy. you deserve it.

1is2many
1is2many
1is2many
Its Guilt, and that is what most alcoholics use to go back to the bottle. It is just another excuse to drink if you really want to not do anything then that is a choice or you can go find some other alcoholics and ask for help. That is the beginning of freedom. Most alcoholics will not ask for help and say they can do it alone, but for me when I finally put down the fists and reached out my hand another alcoholic gave me a lift out of the hole i was in.
1is2many
finallyawakenow
finallyawakenow
There is a way to look at the past that helps me. I read it while working on understanding my fears. (and pain/guilt) The past is only real in our minds. We keep these thoughts deep down and often fight to keep them buried. Grasping at things in an attempt to give us pleasure to escape. I like to visualize it like a movie (past emotions/situations) that I can choose to watch or not. ‘watching’ painful clips over and over is kind of like an addiction in itself. One we have to overcome through daily practice. By thinking in the present. And living the best life we can now. Bests
jeffneedshelp
jeffneedshelp
I never think about drinking. Haven’t in years. Once I got to AA my mindset changed.
gubgub
gubgub
Just a post to to say your not alone
Take strength in that
Alcohol is like a monkey on your back
I am keeping busy
Giving yourself treats to fill the pleasure centre is effective
Calling on the Higher Power
magic!!!
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