I'm glad that it went okay! Sounds like it was even fun. People can be entertaining.

Those are the best feelings and the best times...glad you experienced it.

I'm glad it all turned out fine. I found that 99 percent of the stuff I worry about is for naught.

Sober on!

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Bob your niece was glad you could afford to come I am sure and not to drink? Well had you drank the party might have changed from fun for everyone to total embarrassment for one drunk alcoholic-U! I am glad you were supported by sisters...that is positive family vibes man gotta love members of family that care!

I hope your niece and her new husband have a wonderful life together. How nice that you were there (and sober!) to share the special day!

YAY! Good for you!

Anna..... I tried to look for the good in people but also the humor. there was one cousin there that got so drunk, she nearly fell down several times and I asked myself why does she drink like a fish and I think it is how she deals with the stress over her husbands medical issues, with him being a diabetic type 2 plus a cancer survivor. He has had a portion of one lung removed and I am sure that must be so hard for a wife to deal especially with her husband being the bread winner of the family! My heart goes out to them!

Missy,.... I thought of you when I grabbed my glass of water to toast! They put my table on video and I wonder if anyone will notice I was toasting with the water glass instead of the wine glass! haha!

1istoomany....yes that is so true! 95% of the things we worry about never happen, and the other 5%, we can't do anything about....is the way it was told to me. It is something I need to keep in mind all the time and I'll probably sweat alot less!

Billy, my sisters are both retired now and I think since I have been a no show at other weddings for various reasons, probably from being drunk or high, they were just happy (and surprised) that I even showed up. My family has not always been supportive but the wisdom gained from being adult children of alcoholic parents kind of binds us together and makes us love each other more, I think.

Thanks Exjersey, I just wish I didn't miss the other weddings. I have 2 nieces and 2 nephews and they are all married off now.

God Bless you all!

Thanks Deli, I just hated driving through new york city where I got lost !

God Bless!

Bob, good for you! Don't you feel great? I'm sure your niece was so happy that you were able to be there. I hope you had a relaxing ride back home and had a good night's rest. You can wake up in the morning with NO HANGOVER!!!

Yes Clover so true. Niece was very happy and surprised also.

God Bless!

I remember parties where I was the only sober one there. Other people are amusing, and then sometimes disgusting. And then I think, "wow, that's what I must look like when I'm drunk." It's a very powerful lesson.

Congrats on staying with your plan to be sober. Good for you!

I'm glad that you went and were pleasantly surprised it was a good time. I had a similar situation over the 4th and it was a great boost.

How refreshing to hear your happy success story! I remember when I was a little kid thinking it was so much fun to sneak into the living room and watch the "grown up" parties, so yes I can get it that watching others get tipsy can be fun! Kind of like a "contact high,"

Needhelp: yes it was an unusual source of positive reinforcement for my own sobriety even though, in one way, I felt left out but support is huge and had I not previously thought about writing about it on this forum and talking about it with sober friends, it might have had a different outcome for me.

Fairygirl: Yes, I had to force myself to go because I felt I owed it to my sister to be there. I remember driving up to their door, and I had knots in my stomach, wondering what kind of reception I was going to receive but they put me at ease immediately and made me feel welcomed. It was nice.

Trojan Yes, we had those parties at my house also, when I was a kid! Every Saturday night, aunts and uncles would arrive and immediately start drinking. Some of them would pass out and hae to stay the night. It was pretty disgusting but back then it was called "fun"

God Bless!

It was a little different at my house. None of them ever got beyond tipsy and funny. Nobody got sick, passed out or stay the night.

They were pretty controlled partiers. Maybe that is why I grew up thinking it was ok?