Look in the phone book and find an Al Anon meeting Im in recovery and many of my friends spouses ect.. go changes everyones life but more importantly YOUR YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID

^^Yup, I agree, Al Anon is where you can start rebuilding your life.

I agree with the others, alanon is your answer. I am going to start going to alanon also.

I completely understand how you feel. I recently filed for a divorce. I have been attending Al-anon meetings regularly to help heal myself. I have learned a lot in the process. However, my heart still feels like it is breaking every day. I am sure that pain will dull, especially when I have kids that keep me going. I know that I don't deserve this lifestyle anymore.

Amen...........Amen to ALL below - Al-Anon saved my sanity when my daughter was drinking - (she's 33 now and has been sober for 11 months) AND coupled with my prmary Fellowship - Al-Anon continues to help "ME" is so very many ways today.

Hang in there ........... for YOU.

Be well,

g.

YES THERE RIGHT ALONON IS THE PLACE I AM A RECOVERING ALCOHOLIC AND MY 3 CHILDREN GO THEY SAY BEST THING THEY EVER DID FOR THEMSELVS YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE AND AS MY FAMILY SAY A LOT OF PEACE TO GAIN
MY FAMILY STILL GO TO DAY THEY LOVE IT EVEN THOUGH I HAVENT HAD A DRINK FOR 23 YRS XX

Mine is my b friend of 10 yrs, it didn't really get bad until the last 3 yr, he's totally out of control and really hard to be around as he's so argumentive, or disagreeable, one good thing is I have my own apt and can leave any time, but that doesn't solve any problems he'll just call and pretend nothings happened, I've joined al anon for my own sanity, which of course he doesn't like, I also have a sister whos an 'A'she's been sober 5mths, and a son in law,

Yup I am the wife of an alcohloic and I completely understand. I am sad and irritable all the time, I hate the way I feel I am so unhappy.

Me too, I'm reading alanon literature, so I know it's not my fault, praticing detachment, The 3 c's ~ I didn't create it, cause it nor can I cure it. I was hoping day before yesterday would be his wake up call as he's been to the doc for some health problems, the doc wanted to admit him to the hospital for some more tests, he refused, but agreed to go to the blood center, and back again in the a.m. for some more tests,I'm sure it's all alcohol related, over 35yrs of abuse, then last night he started drinking again, I'm not doing to stick around and see him slowly kill himself, I've tried everything, he just gets worse and worse, and more emotional abusive and irrational, it's affecting my health, and to stressful any more, you are not alone...

I am 56, was divorced from my first husband of 19 years (non alcoholic) for ten years and met my new husband less than 2 years ago. We were married after 6 months. He told me he was a recovering alcoholic (27 years sober), with slight ADD. Well, I had a boyfriend who drank but wouldn't admit he was an alcoholic. That relationship lasted 3 years. I thought I was prepared for my new husband, especially as he was so long sober. I was completely wrong. I still don't understand how he can show all the signs of being an alcoholic but not be drinking. By that I mean he is defensive, self centered, manipulative, controlling, avoids any kind of conflict, people pleases, hides things from me. I can't say anything at all to complain, disagree, anything negative and he will get defensive and walk out of the room. Even if I ask if he has eaten, he thinks I am controlling. I don't know if I can handle this, we fight more and more, I shout and argue, he is passive aggressive. It seems he doesn't really understand me at all, only his own perspective. He doesn't seem to recognize logic or that I really get upset. He just thinks I am out to get him, the enemy,. Does alcoholism destroy brain cells? I don't want a divorce, but I am really thinking about it.

My response to the above post sound like he is DRY DRUNK, very toxic. I have to believe he doesn't have a 12 step program. Good luck....

hi go to AL-ONON for your own sanity does your husband go to AA OR DID HE DO IT ALONE .I WAS ALL THE THINGS HE IS NOW WHEN IDRANK I HAVE BEEN IN AA 23yrs .and learnt how to turn my life around BUT YOU MUST REMEMBER YOU CANT CHANGE HIM HE HAS TO REALLYWANT TO GOOD LUCK X

i also have an alcoholic beau i am trying so hard to stay away from drinking i am only a week sober and he drinks almosty daily and is soo mean when he does i like this idea of al anon but have a hard time going to meetings thank you for all ur comments has helped me large

I am with you. Alcoholic husband here and my sanity is sinking. I also feel broken and drug down. He has slacked off majorly in the past month, mind you he hasn't quit. Yes he has done this before. But Zoe3, if you need someone to talk to, email me! I am right there with you girl. Do you have kids? I think its harder to step away and then again its harder not to take our own anger and disappointment out on them too.

h there. i have just found this website. wot a great help. my husband is also an alcoholic but he cant accept this so there is no chance of us going to meetings. i feel lost and as though i have hit my rock bottom with a thud. although i am in the same situation i can offer no answers- if i could i guess i wouldn't be here!! i just know i find it helps to chat to somebody about this. you'll be in my thoughts and prayers