id rather have a boring sober life than be back out inthat madness i was in, there is just no comparison to how it was and what is like today.

heres my exp of being sober no aa no steps no sponsor yup sure was boring as hell. this time went to aa was given a sponsor did the 12 steps out of the bb to the best of my ability and life has been anything but boring. I like what the BB says once we have recovered we can live happy joyous and free. since I got sober I took up martial arts took up boating took up sky diving and base jumping, been to burbon street during mardi gras and what a hoot that was we went 2 nights sunday night and tues day fat tuesday the last day of mardi gras. Ill tel you the news reported there to be over 1 million drunken ppl. What a gift to not have to be one of those and yes we had fun getting beads. So in my exp if your not living a life beyond your wildest dreams sober it might be the path your taking to be sober. And thats not a judgement on your sobriety just my exp.

Hiya, I think that you might have posted a similar thread during s previous period of sobriety. If you did, this should tell you something about what you are doing or rather, not doing. I am not trying to shove AA down your throat or up your ass but it was there that I found out how to have a life that I want, that I can enjoy rather than endure.

Like Huw said, if you really can't stomach AA then find a place where you can develop as a spiritual woman. Try giving of yourself rather than asking for something, you will find that your whole perspective of life changes.

I wish you well and hope that you find what you are looking for.

Lyn

PS If you find something that really works for you, you could come back here and share it because I think there are lots of people in your situation, they may not post here but I think they 'listen in' in the hope of finding an answer to the same problem.

I have to say, that link posted by Mikeinthedesert is really really informative and has a wonderful slant on things.

I like the idea of a holistic approach to recovery - with the focus not just on spirituality. I too have found that finding a creative outlet is really important. My wqork has been really important in recovery as have hobbies. I need to look at things like giving up smoking and perhaps focusing on my physical health a little more and, as it says, basically "caring for myself".

Note though, that even the guy that wrote that post was started off by his first sponsor with a heavy focus on spirituality. He says he moved on with his second sponsor and his recovery really took off in all sorts of directions. I wonder if that would have happened if he hadn't first built a solid spiritual base?

He says about working through the steps and focusing on spirituality: "This produced fairly stable growth but it wasnt anything revolutionary."

Stability, not skimping on sand and mortar in the ingredients, building our foundations and corner stone is what we need in the early days. We start with the core and move out.

So: "This produced fairly stable growth but it wasnt anything revolutionary." - is exactly what we need to recover from alcoholism and to produce a platform to reach for the stars.

LOL! (I mean rolling on the floor LOL) SoberDaddy & Loriblue!!!!!!!(Lori, I still remember that bulb planting post!)

I can't think of anything that hasn't already been posted other than

"Even if you don't like what these folks say, it won't cost you a thing to just consider that they might just know what they're talkin' about"

Best Wishes

I think life is a bit boring, period, unless you live in a war zone or some such hellish place.

When I first got sober, I used to think that I would never have fun in sobriety again. What fun you say? Why the kind of fun that would cause me to blow my entire paycheck buying flaming drinks for everyone in the bar. I used to love to straddle that toilet and talk to the porcelain god. I totally missed marathon arguments with boyfriends who would shortly after become my exes. I missed waking up after a blackout night of drinking and wonder whose t-shirt I was wearing. Yeah.

And then I realized that what I really missed was the larger than life feelings that came with courting chaos all the time. I didn't know how to enjoy myself in healthy ways. But in time, i learned how to do that, how to really stop and smell the roses.

Sobriety has given me many gifts including how to truly enjoy living in the moment. When I laugh now, it's heart felt. I generally feel good most of the time. I have learned how to play in recovery, to be silly and profound. Now, that really is a technicolour existence, one where the colours actually mean something to me.

Hang in there. Life really will get better and you'll find love and laughter in places you never thought to look before.

i think life is what you make it. i used to think my sober friends were boring........but guess which of us had money in the bank ? a nice house ? decent standard of living ? it sure wasnt me !!! all my cash went in the local bar of off license.....now i know different.

'We have shown how we got out from under. You say, 'Yes, I am willing. But am I to be consigned to a life where I shall be stupid boring and glum like some righteous people I see? I know I must get along without liquor, but how can I? Have you a sufficient substitute?

Yes, there is a substitute and it is vastly more than that. It is a fellowship in Alcoholics Anonymous. There you will find release from care, boredom and worry. Your imagination will be fired. Life will mean something at last. The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead. Thus we find the fellowship, and so will you.'

Big Book pp 152

My life was so boring when I was drinking. Same thing day in day out with a few horrible things, arguments, accidents etc to break it up occasionally.

My life sober is sometimes not very exciting but I like that, its not boring just peaceful, and it is never as tedious as spending night after night lying on my bathroom floor!

It really doesnt need to be boring - I look back and think of how boring my drunk life was.

I have rediscovered enjoying things I used to enjoy doing.

I know its easy to say but I think you should try harder. No offence meant.

Sober 18 months and counting. I'm only REALLY bored when I'm in a bar with friends. I feel like an island of one when I'm there. It took me about 6 months to adjust to sober living. Once you leave the alcohol in the past and start living the world has a much clearer view.

Hang in there you'll make it.

10 months and counting... it took me around 6 months also to get used to sober living. but then it difers from individual to individual.

Thank you everybody....I' be just fine:-)

Denial isn't just a river in Egypt... Be careful europagrl.