Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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confusedmoma 04/09/2008

Hi, i have been sober for almost six months(HOORAY) but when does the fun begin?? I am starting to feel so restless, bored and agitated!! I don't miss drinking, but i do miss feeling carefree and spontaneous.My life is better now that i am sober.. i know this... but at the same time it is harder in alot of ways because of the fact that i'm being forced to deal with things now! I still can't believe how much effort it takes to live sober. When i first quit drinking, i thought that life would be just peachy and problem free. Now i see all the things i ignored before, and there's alot.I'm getting tired... i try so hard to change but the negative behaviors and thinking just won't go away.It's almost a minute by minute struggle to stay positive! I get frustrated easily.. in the beginning i cried all the time, and now it seems like i'm angry all the time! What's next? When will i feel more grounded?When can i have some fun?? And how the heck do i do that if i'm always swarming in all these different emotions?I want it all NOW!! lol wow do i ever sound like a petulant child...

deleted_user 04/09/2008

I only have 12 days behind me but I have already been bored to tears. I don't have the answer to your problem, I only know that although life keeps heaping on the crap, I have a clear head to deal with it and that is a great thing. Perhaps I am still reveling in the feeling of being sober, and I honestly don't know what to tell you about the boredome without the usual cliche's. "find a hobby", "go to the gym", "start a book club", blah, blah, blah. Just hang in there and have faith in yourself that the boredom will only come in spurts and there will be happy, occupied times as well. Hang onto those!!
Someone once told me (sorry if it sounds glum) That life is a series of boring miserable events, interupted by brief moments of hapiness and fulfillment.....

deleted_user 04/09/2008

I have to admit, getting in arguments, fist fights, handcuffs and financial scrapes isn't boring..... I think I may start drinking again so I won't be so bored. Besides, I'm tired of having to go to work everyday.... LOL

deleted_user 04/09/2008

Dan you are such a charachter. I also am getting into a rut I almost have 6 months to and I think it has alot to do with the weather by me good ol wi with tons and tons of snow. anyways I try to find new things to do that I always wanted to do while i was dirnking but never did like scrapbooking, back in school, there are all kinds of things I know but I also havnt really found them all but I do know that this is much better then where I was and that is ok with me.

deleted_user 04/09/2008

The little ol' biddies come to my house, we lower the frame and quilt. Don't knock unless you've tried it!

Hold on Bertha, I'll be right back.......

deleted_user 04/09/2008

what are you quilting for me? a nice warm blanket so we can cuddle?

deleted_user 04/09/2008

Shhhhhh.... private messaging Dany.... shhhhhh

deleted_user 04/09/2008

I cant help it but shout it out to the world that you are I are a couple but I will try to keep it hush hush for now on...wink wink...kiss kiss

deleted_user 04/09/2008

I'm right there with you. I look back at my drinking patterns and I would start drinking around 6 or 7 pm then go to sleep around 8:30 or 9. It doesn't sound like a lot of drinking time, but I pounded them until I was too tired to stay up. Now I'm wide awake till 12 and I have no idea what to do with all this time. I cried the other night because of anxiety. It's really hard and I hope it gets easier one day.

Loved1 04/09/2008

I think a lot of my drinking and using was due to boredom.

I don't feel bored in sobriety these days (usually). I know how overwhelming it can be early on. What really helped and still helps me when I feel overwhelmed like I "should" be further along or doing better, to have that mental checklist of progress I've made... I'm sure you can come up with one.

Journaling, meditating or doing activities that put you in a meditative state such as walking, sewing, drawing, anything that helps you "forget" yourself or anything, a good book, how about step work, a meeting, the big book?

I think when we get sober it becomes an opportunity to get to know ourselves and our interests, because suddenly we are present and living, when before in our intoxicated state we couldnt' really be present or live. So what are your interests and what steps can you take to pursue them?
Or how about picking up the phone?
Just suggestions. HUG

deleted_user 04/09/2008

That's when the fellowship has to take over. I used to suffer with that myself. Stick around the fellowship long enough and you will eventually find alkies that you can relate to.

I'm sorry to say this; but we inventory, and laugh sometimes at others expense.
My sponsor says; think God that somebody was always doing his inventory, so he could be aware of his character defects, and how fucked up he was.
I do all the same activities I used to, I just don't use drugs(alcohol being a drug).
I am a super believer of the obsession being able to be removed.
Do as any recovery program tells you to do, and things will get better.

deleted_user 04/09/2008

Hi Confused, I can relate to your boredom. I am 43 days sober today (YAY) and loving it. I do get very bored, however, and have started making jewelery. I am getting the itch to get my sewing machine out too. Being creative was one of the biggest things that my alcoholism stopped me from doing (not to mention mom, wife, friend, etc). What did you do before alcohol became your best friend?

deleted_user 04/09/2008

I have been sober for 1 yr and I still at times become bored. But I get that way late at night. Where I cant sleep sometimes and find my self starring at the ceiling with this bug -eyed look. I dont know if its boredom or just having too much energy now. If I was still drinking I would have been passed out. Life is good today !

deleted_user 04/09/2008

Sweet heart hang in there it does get easier you've got to give time some time and trust me you couldn't handle it all NOW and your higher power knows this so trust in him, and does your area have like dances or picnics and bar-b-ques my area does there are always things going on or hook up w/your sponsor or someone in your support group and go do something anything not involving alcohol

linalg1 04/09/2008

the honeymoon period in aa lasted for about 6 months for me an the novellty of being sober began to ware off. The pain of living in reality gradually began to rear its ugly head. I am an extremly impulsive person an have always enjoyed living on the edge so getting sober was a big change. I joined some local drama groups it gives me a chance to release all my pent up energy an express my self in ways that i only could have done under the influence.

Jenn70 04/09/2008

I am only 2 weeks sober and I found right away that I drank to escape feeling bored. As a stay at home mom, caring for little kids, cleaning, cooking, running erands, doing laundry, washing dishes. I am busy but bored and with little kids I can't just start any old project or go do something. I am trying to just pick one thing at a time and spend some time on it. It feels good to have made at least some progess on something each day. I know I have a lot of things about myself to work on and change but I am trying to break it up into reasonable bits so I will actually do it. I tend to get overwhelmed when I look at everything at once and then just do nothing. I don't know if this can help you or not, but maybe just pick one small thing and work on it to start with.

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