Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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PinkArzora 09/18/2020

I fell.

I hate myself but my ambition that maybe "i got this" was misguided. I like to leave cryptic messages on FB when I drink. Frankly I don't really have any friends. No one invites us for a bbq, a bike ride, a wedding. You don't want me at your wedding. I may take full advantage of the open bar and try to seduce the groom. It likely would fail, but I would succeed in getting myself uninvited to any future weddings. So in this spirit I texted one of my real friends about trying to steal her mother after spending an hour on the phone with her. I followed up with a "Litinies of Satan" link to encourage her in devil worshipping. My mind is a mixed bag when I drink.

Here I am, all my problems are still here with me. PLUS!!! Now my friend is of the opinion I should "get help", my gut is solidly sour for days now, my money got thrown around in a way that more sober minds would have found better investments. My husband was ruminating for days over it, we kept bickering, and my son is done pleading and just glares with contempt.

Why? Why is any of this bullcrap worth it? That is the heart of the matter. What is alcohol giving me that makes it so seductive to my self-detructive? I can't be stopped. No one controls me. I will light a match and burn the fort to the ground. I can't grow up.

debanne1956 09/18/2020

Yes you can. There is more of you to love than to hate. Dig deep. Imagine the loving responses to whatever happens to you. Even if you can't do it right now, just imagine what the loving response is. Even if you can just allow yourself to be quiet and feel the sensations in your body. Take three deep breaths. Feel the air in your lungs. Feel how full your lungs can get. Feel your confusion. Then say thank you. Then wonder what to say thank you for. Then be surprised when you think of something to be thankful for. Then tell me what happens next.

PinkArzora 09/20/2020

After writing this a sticker of a T -Rex w a claw grip "i am unstoppable" passed in front of my face at grocery store parking lot. I felt the humor of that, my noisy, bloated brain proclaim that i am some how ready to rage, ready to break the barriers of time and space. Suddenly it's like a mockery from above. I am a cartoon T-Rex. I am a monster joke? Maybe. But i am more; much more. (Insert evil villain laugh here)

Yard_Eggs 09/20/2020

Yes, you can get sober. But there is no magic potion, no miracle pill. My magic was working the program of recovery as suggested by AA.

Do you truly want a sober life? Have you attended an AA meeting?

Like thousands before, AA can help those who want to recover "from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.' The main purpose of AA is "to show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered".

If AA doesn't float your boat, there a countless other means to recovery, programs, rehabs, etc.

PinkArzora 09/21/2020

I choose life. Drinking is death for me now. Amy Schumer joked about being on the road with middle age comics who don't drink because "they can't". I've hit that wall, my friend. My body just can't.

PinkArzora 09/21/2020

I also wanted to talk about how absurd it is to think "if only a T-Rex had longer arms" where we might be now. Thing is, it is also a metaphor for a terrifying, ferocious monster that had a very small brain and made up for that with aggression. Like so many dumb drunks i know, not that they ARE DUMB but they BECOME DUMB (ahem holding a mirror on that one) and easily triggered and frankly aggressive. It ain't no fun for no one. No it ain't.
He's the DD @ the party. The designated driver? Oh no!
No. The dumb dino.

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