OMG! NIcky that is brilliant! I love it, that is so true to me and makes so much sense. Thanks!

good post nicki i can relate to this 1 ..alot... holdin on to old ideas and my way hasnt worked and never will..

Hi Nicky.

Thankyou for the check-up from the neck-up.

Every so often i can still be self will run riot .I am not cured just yet.lol

I use that sentence a lot Thy will,not mine, be done.

Enjoy your day .
God Bless...

LIonel

SERENITY PRAYER

God, grant me the Serenity
to accept the things
I cannot change Courage to change the
things I can, and the
Wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardship as the
pathway to peace.
Taking, as He did, this
sinful world as it is,
not as I would have it.
Trusting that He will make
all things right if I
surrender to His Will;
That I may be reasonably happy
in this life, and supremely
happy with Him forever in
the next.
Amen

My self will was classified by rebellion and defiance. In being graced with sobriety, my eyes were opened to the futility of the delusion that the world was Dairy Queen and I was always supposed to get everything "my way".

When that old idea stopped working, I was so tired of beating my head against the wall and so tired of hurting, that I became willing to do anything to stop the pain because, for me, drinking wasn't an option. I became willing to do the work. That is what makes growth possible.

Thanks nicky. This is a topic that should be at the top for a while.

Good post.

"Thy will" is my new mantra.

May I say that self will in and of itself is not always a negative.

In examining the motive behind what one does or say's there is the underlying matter of choice. By making that choice we are exerting our will to perform an act in accordance with that path our HP has shown or allowing the selfishness of the non-spiritual disconnected old self to come forth.

Nicky, Great post. From my exp. my will always got me in trouble, had to let go of it. Today I still can take it back for a short time identify what I'm doing and resolve it.

Would be interested in hearing more people's thoughts on this.

To me it is useful in reminding me that when I think I am running the show I am bound to feel bad whether about the past the future or how things are right now.

When i am not trying to run the show my life is so much calmer and more peaceful and positive.

Ok Nicky...a question.....why is resentment just about will in the past?

I still can get resentment now and then have to remember 'resentments are taken not given' and then I can work on it and see my part in what is going on.

Or do you mean past as in just a second ago????

There is selfISH will and there is selfLESS will. I try to practice the 2nd one though I fail miserably all the time

I would say if I am feeling something about something that happened now or a few moments ago that would be anger.

If i am re feeling that anger long after the event has passed then that is resentment.

I dont know where the line is though between anger turning to resentment. I sort of know for me when I am angry and it will pass and when it has not passed and has turned into resentment. Depends on what I am angry about circumstances etc.

What are others thoughts - when does anger become resentment?

I guess for me, that point when anger turned into resentment would be if I thought about it (person or situation) next week/month/year and still had the same feelings of anger and they were just as strong as they were the day it happened. That's when it would change from an anger to a resentment. Cause I hadn't let go of it.

anger becomes a resentment when you cant let go of something that someone did to u etc and you hang on to it ... and it leaves you left on a hook as probably that person has forgotten wat happened ..

if that makes sense

Hmmmn....I see what you are saying.

I am thinking about one particular situation that happened Monday night.......you are correct, I was angry at it. Then, like the good alcoholic I am, I kept thinking and thinking about it and made it into a resentment.

I tend to see anger as 'ranting' yet you give a whole new perspective on it which I can understand. I guess anger can also be just in ones head...never thought of it that way...as a silent emotion! Wow!

I also do belief though that when I am not personally involved in something, like a work situation, that a resentment can happen without anger. Such as through frustration.

Food for thought for me.