Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
SO, I posted earlier in the week about my sponsor not having time to meet with me to go over the steps....We go to a few meetings together a week and I have joined her home group...I have come to really love the women...Well, she has continued to put me off.. we were supose to meet tonight, but she canceled on me at the last min....he son is in the hospital (mental), her sponsor just had surgery, she has had problems with her daugter...ugh, I do feel really bad for her and she was telling me she would soon have more time...but should I hold on to that and wait?
I know a lot of you said that she was aweful and cruel on the last post but she is a good woman, she is there when I call her and need something (well sometimes she seems distracted but i dont know)
UGH!! I hate this!! I coulsd easily let this drag me to drinking but I WILL NOT LET THAT HAPPEN!! I am doing this for me and will not let someone else do that to me....
I hate this because I do NOT know how to talk to her! I am not good at letting someone know when I need something...In the past I would of just ran!! And still I want to...Just find another sponsor and avoid all the meetings she goes to....ugh! I jiomed her home group and now I like it! Will it be SUPER aqyward if I do haveto end this sponpsorship? how does this work? What do I do? what do i say to her? HOW DO I DO THIS????
should I wait till I have another sponsor lined up? ugh...I dont even know who to ask....
Sorry to ramble....
any advise is greatly appreciated!!!
And she really is a good woman, just has a lot going on...I feel aweful for her...maybe I should just do work on my own and be more understanding...
I know a lot of you said that she was aweful and cruel on the last post but she is a good woman, she is there when I call her and need something (well sometimes she seems distracted but i dont know)
UGH!! I hate this!! I coulsd easily let this drag me to drinking but I WILL NOT LET THAT HAPPEN!! I am doing this for me and will not let someone else do that to me....
I hate this because I do NOT know how to talk to her! I am not good at letting someone know when I need something...In the past I would of just ran!! And still I want to...Just find another sponsor and avoid all the meetings she goes to....ugh! I jiomed her home group and now I like it! Will it be SUPER aqyward if I do haveto end this sponpsorship? how does this work? What do I do? what do i say to her? HOW DO I DO THIS????
should I wait till I have another sponsor lined up? ugh...I dont even know who to ask....
Sorry to ramble....
any advise is greatly appreciated!!!
And she really is a good woman, just has a lot going on...I feel aweful for her...maybe I should just do work on my own and be more understanding...
A sponsor who becomes an ex-sponsor can still be a friend and someone you turn to for assistance.
You need to think about yourself in this. If your sponsor is working HER program, she would understand your need to get through the steps ASAP.
Lots of luck, Ashley! ;-)
~Chris
I was appointed a sponsor in the beginning. All good except as the time came to take the steps Jerry really was not Interested in Helping me with that. So I kept my eyes open for another sponsor. Leonard blew into town And after a little bit i got up the courage to as k him. Very willing to take me through steps and school me in other AA activities.
Billy
PEace!
"Hi. How are you? Hey listen. I have been thinking a lot lately and have decided that, while you have helped me tremendously to get through the first couple months of my sobriety, I have decided that I need someone who is able to spend more time with me. This is not a reflection of you. I respect and care for you, but I need something a little different. You taught me that my own sobriety has to take priority over everything else, so I hope that you can understand where I am coming from. I'd like if we still remain friends."
If she tries to persuade you in any way to reconsider...
"I have already made my decision. I need to do this."
That's sorta how it went with my first sponsor. She understood right away and didn't even question it.
Good luck. Don't let it go on too long. You deserve the time you need.
Your sponsor has a life to and may not be able to dedicate full time. Ya gotta get that straightened out.
My sponsor was full blown AA, but he made it very clear that it was to take me through the steps of AA> NOTHING ELSE.