You should have stopped and here's why.
If it was a men's group they would have told you about where you could go to a regular meeting. If you were hurting and in need of help bad enough they would have let you in or called a woman to come help you.
More than likely it wasn;t a mens meeting. More than likely they were standing outside to smoke. The women who are smarter and don't smoke were inside.
What happened is that the alcoholic in you took over and gave you an excuse not to go.

I don't know about there but where I'm from the men usually out number the women, but I have never heard of anyone being thrown out of a meeting. We welcome all who have the desire to quit drinking. Go for it, you may learn alot from us old men about your drinking.

You might be right...I mean I am not freaking out and in desperate need right now, but I just looked it up again and it said the name of the group "sister ignatia group" I do not understand that either but really there was nothing but men walking up to the place too, guess since I am on the shy side I did take the easy way out....I should have asked atleast....I guess I just got intemedated too....ahhh...I will do this...

oh ashley, how many times I did something similar. I would drive to the wrong church, go to a meeting and run because it was not for women, Go at the wrong time, etc. I am not saying you are doing this, but when I got serious, I still made mistakes but promptly corrected them. Like, if I was late for a meeting I would wait for the next one. I gave myself no outs.

I know I am doing that...I know I messed up and yes I gave myself an out....tomorrow night I will try it again and if I run from that one then I have a problem I need to deal with....i honestly do not think it is about being serious though...I am very serious about not drinking and seeking ways to get help....I will not drink no matter what though.....I am done...but thanks for telling me like it is KK.....I know I have to want it more....I am still unsure of AA.....not judging, just not sure if its for me....I know I must try it though with an open mind....I am not giving up though...

At this point don't question AA, really not necessary at the beginning. Just meet some people your age ashley, get some support, feel comfortable amongst recovering alkis, think about the theology later.

Glad I wasn't too harsh in my post, I care about you and want you to make it.

I also care about you and dont want you to end up like so many other alchies. I did not avoid meetings at first because of the men or woman, I just sat in my car not wanting to go in and make that admission. Once I stopped think and judging, I got inside and listened. I am by far the most non shy person around, but the first few meetings I was like a paper puppy. I only get like that if a woman I like starts talking to me. I am such a damn kid. Oh but I digressed. Meetings good, alcohol bad.

Mary Ignatia Gavin (18891966) of the Sisters of Charity of St. Augustine was known as The Drunk's "Angel of Hope"

Sister Ignatia took her vows in 1914 and, as a superb musician, was called to teach music. She did this for about 10 years but found it "too hectic" and suffered a nervous breakdown. When she recovered, she began working as a nurse. On August 16, 1935, Sister Ignatia was in charge of admissions at St. Thomas Hospital in Akron, Ohio. She and Dr. Bob Smith (doctor), admitted the first alcoholic patient who would be the first of millions to participate in the Twelve-step program of recovery.

Many of ideas of Alcoholics Anonymous ideas including the use of tokens to mark milestones in sobriety were introduced by Sister Ignatia. She gave alcoholics leaving St. Thomas a Sacred Heart medallion, instructing them that the acceptance of the medallion represented commitment to God, A.A. and recovery. She added that if they were going to drink, they should return the medallion first.

She was also the first to recognize the use of coffee for alcoholics, insisting that it be freely available in every stage of recovery.

Thank you Wikipedia

Sorry you missed the meeting.I know when I was new I would stand outside and judge who was going in. I didn't think I measured up so, I would go home. Fortunately I didn't stop at one of the numerous bars. Eventually I gained the couraged to cross the threshold of the doors to AA and walk in to a meeting alone. Hugs, Tom I know you'd be welcome.

You should have gone in to find out. In the meeting I attend Im the only woman but its not a mens group, thats just the way it is at the moment. There is another meeting a bit further down the road on the same night that I could go to that does have a few women attending (I know most of them) but I keep attending this one for three reasons. 1) Its very good for me. I live in a totally female environment and it keeps me from isolating myself from half the population on earth 2) Its very good for them. Stops a few (not all) of the drunkalogs that are of the I drank more than you and was more disgusting than you variety and 3) just in case some woman in need of help comes in and takes one look at the blokes and runs a mile. I always thought the last reason was a bit far fetched but you have made me see how important it is for me to keep attending there. Thanks.