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"It is a spiritual axiom that every time we are disturbed, no matter what the cause, there is something wrong with us."
"Our first objective will be the development of self restraint. This carries a top priority rating. When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot."
"We must avoid quick-tempered criticism and furious, power-driven argument. The same goes for sulking or silent scorn. These are emotional booby traps baited with pride and vengefulness. Our first job is to sidestep the traps. When we are tempted by the bait, we should train ourselves to step back and think."
"Can't we be properly angry with self-righteous folk?"
"We have found that justified anger ought to be left to those better qualified to handle it."
(12&12 step 10)
Says me... If it won't make my resentments list, it isn't worth getting angry about. Just wasted energy.
"Our first objective will be the development of self restraint. This carries a top priority rating. When we speak or act hastily or rashly, the ability to be fair-minded and tolerant evaporates on the spot."
"We must avoid quick-tempered criticism and furious, power-driven argument. The same goes for sulking or silent scorn. These are emotional booby traps baited with pride and vengefulness. Our first job is to sidestep the traps. When we are tempted by the bait, we should train ourselves to step back and think."
"Can't we be properly angry with self-righteous folk?"
"We have found that justified anger ought to be left to those better qualified to handle it."
(12&12 step 10)
Says me... If it won't make my resentments list, it isn't worth getting angry about. Just wasted energy.
xoxo
~Chris
That bit on justifiable anger is a big one. There is little "justifiable" anger that I can have. It eats at and consumes me. So back to the previous paragraph.
Not entirely wasted. I learn where it is not safe to go in my head.
Serenity prayer works too, whatever the reason...
Hugs,
Dennis
All good.
But I agree whole heartedly with the rest - as it relates to onging resentments be they justifiable or unjustifuable. They are corroding to the soul, pointless and useless to our recovery. I am worst at dealing with ongoing justifiable resentments as they are so much harder to shift.
But I've had a win in this regard lately in relation to an institution which had terrible accountability and the people involved duck-shoved responsibility around and around and they did do me damage.
But I've been reading the St Francis Prayer regularly as well as a Buddhist reading and another that is non-sectarian. They have really changed my perspective about all those people involved and their own humanity, the fact that I know nothing about their life situation or what they are experiencing, and that they are ME from the point of being just a person in the human race going about their business as best they can. It's such a relief to think that way about a person or persons who have hurt you. It has helped me recover from this scenario much more quickly and helps me to be of more service to myself and others. I hope i can replicate this in the future.
Resentment and Anger - justifible or not is still resentment and anger
MY OPINION ONLY - my eternal life is very important to me and when i truly learned the art of forgiveness for myself and others, my life for me began to change - when I feel resentment or anger coming on something i don't feel i can shake, I remember Jesus on the cross saying "Forgive them Father for They Know Not What They Do" I have to remind myself that forgiveness is the key to peace and if I must forgive in order to be forgiven...."Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us"
Peace!
Notes to Myself My sturggle to become a person by Hugh Prather.
I got this book some 7-8 years back. The title appealed me the most and led me to select the name of the blog on the title. But I had to select another as Notes to myself has been adopted by many bloggers.
In the morning while having the breakfast I was reading this small book and I come across with this passage and it seems to have been written by me, written for me, it simply refelcts my state of mind.
When I first began trying to be myself, I at times felt trapped by my feelings. I through that I was stuck with feelings I had, that I couldnt change them, and shouldnt try to even if I could. I saw many negative feelings inside me that I didnt want, and yet I felt that I must express them if I were going to be myself.
Since then I have realized that my feelings do change and that I can have a hand in changing them. They chage simply by my becoming aware of them. When I acknowledge my feelings they become more positive. And they change when I express them. For example, if I tell a man that I dont like him, I usally like him better.
The second thing I have realized is that my not wanting to express a negative feelings is a feeling itself, a part of me, and if I want not to express the negative feeling more than I do, then I will be acting more like myself by not expressing it.
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