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CountryRed57
CountryRed57
My friend has been battling alcoholism along with other things and I have been there for her for over 20 years. Each time she falls weak and goes back to drinking is worse on her than the last time. Her son and I are at our wits end on what to do anymore. She is drinking again. This time she was sober for about 4 months. I went to check on her the other evening after no answers from us calling. She was drunk, place nasty, her nasty and animals hungry. I fed her dog and cat and left. Called her son. he is scared but fed up because she doesn't seem to be serious enough to stay in aa and call her sponsor before drinking. Her son is wanting me to go check on her to feed her pets and make sure she is not in the floor and can't get up like other times. I am so torn on what to do. We keep helping her for her to just go back to this again. Help plz...I don't know what to do.
Needhelp4me2quit
Needhelp4me2quit
I think you really need to try something NEW. Another detox is not going to work, if your friend is not 100% committed to the idea.

I don't even know you, but I feel so sorry that you are going through all of this stress. But until your friend decides she is serious, there is very little you can do, except put yourself through Hell.
CountryRed57
CountryRed57
Thank you for your reply. Her son text me and said she begged him to come help her. What he did was take her cigarettes she was too sick to get out and go get. I asked him when he left what she planned on doing. all he said is he doesn't know. he said he cleaned up the place and gave her sprite and beef broth. Ok, the liquor store right around the corner from her is back open tomorrow. Lets see what she plans on doing. I have been so mentally tired I guess and her son woke me up this morning like every morning that I am not already up texting about his mom. for some reason I have been really angry about all this today. I don't want to be angry. He just cannot let her hit rock bottom. I agree that detox only helped her in the past with withdrawals and then back out to drink again. 30 day programs didn't help for too long either. I think I am going through some anger issues and depression over this.
JAYUS
JAYUS
Maybe she needs to hit rock bottom to realize that she needs to change herself. You are only stressed out about it and angry because you are a good person and are frustrated because you don't know what to do.

As a newbie to trying to be sober, I don't have any advice. But I do pray for you and hope that the answer will come and that you can have peace of mind about the whole thing and realize that you truly are an amazing friend and person. God bless.
CountryRed57
CountryRed57
Thank you Jayus and I think you are right that I am frustrated and angry because I don't know what to do anymore. Everything in the past has not worked. Her son won't let her hit rock bottom. her daughter won't have anything to do with her when she drinks. I think her son should have left the mess for her to see when she sobered up completely and over the sickness to clean up her own mess. I told her son not to clean up her mess that she needs to see what she lives like drinking. He didn't listen.