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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

Ashley8888
Being sober is lonely for me, when I was drinking I wanted to be around people more..now, I feel like I seldom have the desire....I just want to be at home, doing my thing...I dont know...I dont have many sober friends either....I am going to AA, but being sober and meeting new people is not proving easy for me...I am a lot more shy when I am sober. I am, not going to give up, but I think I need to do more work, some hoe, maybe do some out patient stuff, but I hear that can be expensive too...just not sure...I do not want to mess up agian, and I feel myself starting to isolate...
Anyways, did anyone else feel this way when getting sober and trying to changing your life...? Its lonely sometimes, and DAM*T, was does it have to be Valentines Day, to make me feel worse...LOL..
Anyways, did anyone else feel this way when getting sober and trying to changing your life...? Its lonely sometimes, and DAM*T, was does it have to be Valentines Day, to make me feel worse...LOL..
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Yes Ashely, I have been lonely lately, I think it is natural-I am not around people as much as I use to be! I am a stay at home mom, and I have my kids and love it. I yearn sometimes for companionship though.
I tell you what though, this lonliness has really brought me to enjoy solitary stuff that I NEVER liked as much. I really think about what I like now, and I always put that on the back burner. It was always about pleasing others, what they like, and that is how I lived.
I think now I am re-booting a bit! I kind of like it, and people around me have noticed I have changed in my "always wanting to please" and entertain attitude.
Give YOURSELF a try.
Boy, this should get me some hate mail on Valentines Day......hehehe
And yes, I do enjoy being by myself sometimes, getting to know ME again, it has been awhile...
Being so new in recovery, it's a good idea to avoid that altogether. I too have to meet some sober friends...if I find a way to meet new sober friends..I'll let ya know! :)
Sorry KK-I started a trend...was feeling amorous so I found ole Jake there to keep me company tonight..hee hee..invited the rest of the girls along so we could trade off.
Oh and FYI-if you google "sexy cowboy" you'll find some very entertaining photos. but WARNING do NOT google "sexy cowboyS" plural or you'll be stunned at what ya see!! :)
'You are not lonely, you are just alone'.
I thought about that. She was spot on. I had made the choices to be where I was, I had ended the shitty relationships (and hey, whats worse, I could have been still sat in one!).
This is mindset stuff so how about trying to use a different word...I now find if I say I am 'alone' (as oppossed to 'lonely') it does wonders :)
So with you. I also remember, 'Rome wasnt built in a day and nor was I', this is gonna take time Ashley. Peace my friend.
-Join a large church with a singles group
-Join a club - book club, gym, whatever. I know that you have a college in Louisville so trust me, there are many clubs
Take an adult "continuing education" class at the university. These are open to anyone, and you can take things like "intro to photography, etc".
I'm not saying you should never be alone, but the only way to meet people is to get out of your comfort zone.
Early in sobriety I found the best thing I did was to get out of me. I volunteered at the local soup kitchen. I got involved in AA service work, getting coffee, cleaning up after a meeting. Listening to others. (At the advice of others). I really enjoyed it.
Of course the first priority was just in taking care of the every day things, going to meetings. Keeping a conscious check on the HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired).
I think the most important thing I did early on was just stay as busy as I could. When busy my thoughts didn't wander as much away from the moment. Just focusing on the next right thing. Staying in the day, in the moment and trying to think of what I could do for another.
Hugs Ree
I can remember when I first drinking, I could be in a room full of people and be the loneliest person in the world. Today I can be the only person in the room and I am never alone. This is a healing process, that being said as the alcoholic I am I want it now damn it. I was reminded constantly by my sponsor that it took me 44 years to get sober, what made me think I and my life was going to change over night.
As far as meeting sober folks. In my area there are womens retreats, sober dances, soon there will be picnics, dinners just to name a few. Try some of these you might find you have a good time. Learning to live without alcohol can be difficult at first. I know it was for me as the alcohol was what made me fearless. After a time I found that I just needed faith in myself to overcome all that fear. People actually liked me for me, what an awakening that was for me.
Forcing myself to do the things that were uncomfortable for me was the key. New experiences and adventures, try it and it will become the normal thing for you. God Bless, Mike
I have learned in recovery that in order to be able to be in any kind of relationship with people, I had to be comfortable in myself, with just me for company. It took time, but I can be alone now and not necessarily feel lonely.
I know stuff like Valentine's Day can make people feel even more isolated but you are not ready for that kind of stuff, it'll do your head in!!
The best way to begin to make friends in AA is to be useful - clear up after the meeting, wash the cups/ashtrays, stack chairs etc. Volunteer if the tea-makers job comes up - that was the BEST way I got to know people and all I had to say was 'Hi - tea or coffee.' - then people would ask me how I was - I'd ask back, we might share a joke and before I knew it, I started to feel part of this amazing thing!!
Lyn
I like you am lonely. The only solution is meetings n fellowship,shake up the meetings. Go to different ones.You will meet dif people.
Good Luck,you can always talk to me.
You are not alone.