I know I know I know. I know the feeling. Sometimes it can really pull you down. Just remember this. No matter how happy you were in your best relationship in the past, you can look forward to the one that's right. That will be last.
"Love is like a butterfly; for which when pursued, is just beyond your grasp. But which, if you sit down quietly will alight upon you."

Sit with that feeling of lonliness for awhile. are lonely for yourself, for the real you? No one can bring us that sense of inner peace other than ourself. Someone else can enhance it-but it will always allude you if you go searching outside yourself.

It is the time to enjoy your own company. You have been drowning that person for awhile, right?

I get lonely too. But I tell myself as lonely as I am I would never go back to the dysfunctional relationship I was in.
My dear this to shall pass.
I say if you need to cry then cry, get it over with and tomorrow is a new day.
I bet your going to feel a lot better after good nights sleep.
Be like Peter Pan, think happy thoughts. ")
(((HUGS))) to you sweetheart.

I am lonely for someone, something, anything to take away this feeling and let me know that I can love again, that I can make someone else happy, that I am worthy of love....I get so sick of analyzing myself, my problems, life, I just want to feel loved, wanted, and needed again...
I know this will pass and that I need to look at myself and enjoy things that I like but its hard sometimes
I know I will get over this
It just one of those days....
and yes KK, I you are right I do need to get back to me....and relearn to enjoy my own company....I feel like I can sometimes but then again, I have been relying on other substances to help me get there...not good.....

Ok then tommorow after your treatment program and go register to volunteer at a local nursing home, or animal shelter, or women's shelter....that will get you out of your head ashley. I mean this, we all should do this, no matter how busy, poor, sick we are. As long as we could get out of bed and drink, we can now get out of ourself and give back. Karma man-comes back to you, I guarantee.

Ok then tommorow after your treatment program and go register to volunteer at a local nursing home, or animal shelter, or women's shelter....that will get you out of your head ashley. I mean this, we all should do this, no matter how busy, poor, sick we are. As long as we could get out of bed and drink, we can now get out of ourself and give back. Karma man-comes back to you, I guarantee.

Right now, just sit very quietly. Close your eyes, lie down flat on your back or sit up straight with your back resting against something soft. I think lying down would be better. Close your eyes and then start focusing on your breath literally saying 'breathing in, breathing out' every time. It actually takes about 20 seconds for a biochemical shift to take place once you are focused on the breath. Then notice any tension you're holding and breath into those places. The breath will soften the tension. After a few minutes, notice the still point that is inside of you. It's right there and once we quiet ourselves mentally, we come in contact with the true self. The stillness that we have inside. That stillness is Divinity and you are never without it. If you need to cry then you should cry but pay attention to the stillness. You are whole in that stillness and you always have that. You can't fix everything at once but you can come in contact with your true self and that's where nothing needs fixed. In the end, it's the changes we make in our lives that change things but we aren't 'fixing' anything. it's just a shift of vision, focus.
I'm always here for you but you are always there for yourself and Divinity never leaves you. You are inherently divine. Blessings and deep peace to you tonight

AnneL,

I smiled as I read your comment because it sounded so much like what me step mom would have said to me...she was always trying to get me to meditate, and now I really want to try more...thank you for your great advise, I will do that....center myself....:)

Right, the next part is to forgive yourself when your mind wanders off:) Even 5 minutes would really help, I promise. If we all did this twice a day, we'd all be different people. A 5 minute timeout is a GOOD thing. I'm very happy that anything I wrote made you smile.
Love to you

A couple of the greatest joys of my sobriety:
Enjoying my own company
Learning how to be alone without feeling lonely

Hi Ashley,

I remember when I lived alone. It does get lonely sometimes. But I'm the type who prefers to live alone. I really embraced having my personal space. I lived alone for 10 years after my divorce. It was awkward at first but it became a safe peaceful dwelling to learn so much about myself. With no influence, suggestion or opinions of others. This is a time to find out what YOU like. That sounds so simply put but it's true. Know you are never alone. But you will see that the more you learn about yourself, the more you will enjoy your own company. Branch out and think of hobbies or dreams you have always had and go for it!

Journaling can be comforting too when you feel lonely.

If you are interested, I will email you some meditation techniques which help with almost everything.

I'm here if you ever want to talk. Always!

Peace & ease

Hey sweetie. I'm sorry you are feeling so badly. You know I've been watching you struggle with your soberity, and your relationships. You recently started a new job, considering rehab. Hmmmm,maybe you need to breath, take time to focus on where you are and think about where you want to be and the path to getting there. It takes time to rebuild a life, but you can do it, just be be patient and make small goals toward the life you are wanting. Take care sister. Tammie

BigBear-

Good deal! I meant to mention to Ashley get a pet. My cat was my baby & best friend:)

i get lonely too but i realize its a healthy normal part of life.when we get too lonely though we must look at.. is it for company of another? or someone to sweep us off our feets?..at forty i can tell you i havent found the man with the broom yet.. and i know its unhealthy for me to put big expectations on someone i would just go out with waiting for all this magical cure he's suppose to bring..instead i get out..i volunteer,i join differant groups..i make my self accessable for the possibility..in the mean time im too busy to be too lonely see..dont jump in anything for the sake of just wanting to 'be'with somebody..im sure you dont want any ole body..know what i mean..hope this helps..im still waiting. i know when i find him i'll found something lasting.

I recommend one on one therapy with a therapist if it get's bad.See why you are not making friends. Take care.