Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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JustBeth1975 02/23/2014

Should have been my 10th day of sobriety. Instead, I was on my third day of binge drinking. Monday I had a hangover and spent the day in bed. Monday was bad BUT I was back on the wagon.

2/7 I started my journey very determined. I avoided friends and leaving the house. I was MISERABLE! I think isolation and family stress triggered my weekend binge.

This week I approached my sobriety with a different attitude. Monday-Wednesday I started cooking again. I love to cook but became too lazy to take the time away from my drinking. I did a TON of yard work. Thursday I had "surprise" DD duty. Friday I went to happy hour. Saturday I went to dinner with friends. Instead of shunning everything, I embraced my life without taking one single drink!

I'm sharing because I think when many of us start out we have the mindset that there is one way to accomplish our goal. Most of us have many day ones. Don't be afraid to shake up your plan!

weinere46 02/26/2014

Dear Beth,
Your right, there is no one way that guarantee's sobriety. I have 12 years clean and sober. I can go into a bar setting and have no compulsion to drink. I do not think I could of handled this at year one. Each of us is very different. The test of your plan is if you can have yummy food, good people who may or may not be drinking and fun and then come home sober. If not, rearrange your plan until one of the combinations works for you. Till then keep on trying, Rome was not conquered in a single day. Eric

deleted_user 02/27/2014

Hey, Beth. I just logged back on after being off for a couple weeks. Anyway, I go along with your plan of action. I don't see anything wrong with you going to happy hour and stuff like that. We can't isolate ourselves forever. There is a world out there, outside our comfort zones, that still keeps ticking. I sometimes still avoid situations but not very often. And don't go by what everyone else says about how to stay sober. I went to my first meeting and they said I needed to go to 90 meetings in 90 days...WHAT!? I have a life besides AA meetings. I have a wife and daughter at home. After all the time I've spent drinking and taking time away from them, I'm not about to say "well for the next 90 days I won't be here for an hour or two every night". Anyway, I'm getting a little side-tracked. Congratulations on the days you've been sober. I'm at 112 today. One day at a time. I wish you success.
Josh

deleted_user 02/27/2014

Hi Josh, reply #17, I think you are wise to ignore the 90 in 90 advice, only a person with a lot of time on their hands could do that and I found the solution is in one to one work with a sponsor through the 12 Step programme, not how many meetings I went to.

I believe 90 in 90 came from court orders in the USA, I am pretty sure I have never heard that suggested where I am (England).

deleted_user 02/27/2014

HI BETH JUST KEEP IT SIMPLE. ONE DAY AT THE TIME.

BEST REGARDS, BE GENTLE WITH YOU BETH.

1is2many 02/27/2014

glad ur keeping it on the sober side of the street.

for me I tried about a hundred thousand times to do it on my own I would go a day or two.. or a yr and a half ... or two years... and eventually I would HAVE to drink again. It got to be like a pressure cooker that was going to blow. I had to drink again, It is my default. It is the way I cope. The way I celebrate. Drinking is what I do. I could not deal with life. I always thought that it was just the booze but it has taken me a year and a half of going to meetings every day to realize what it means that 'alcohol is merely a symptom'...

a symptom, I have a desire to do what I call ostrich syndrome. Put my head in the sand. I want to hide while the tiger of life eats my as up...I don't want to be me.

But this time around, I am working pretty hard at doing things I don't like or want to do , but things other ppl that have gotten sober suggest.. Pray, talk to others in recovery every day, and miraculously today I can halfway manage life.

I find that helping others helps me stay sober.

I pray for you to find good sobriety. Sober with a plan f ing rocks

1is2

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