Do you have family you can stay with for a few days....who will give you some emotional support? Just a suggestion but it may help.

Sounds like he will need help to get sober and to stay sober. I had a counselor who once told me that it's almost impossible to stop without some kind of help.

I know I could never do it alone. I drove myself to the ER (drunk) and told them I was an alcoholic and needed help. After giving me some iv fluids to get my blood alcohol level down enough to admit me, I went into detox for 4 days and from there I went into a 3 week intensive outpatient program (iop) followed by counseling and then AA meetings. It took all of this to get me to where I am today, 8 years later where I have everything I need and I have never been happier.

The problem with alcohol and with any addiction is the poison becomes more important then anything or anybody...that is what is so sad about it.

I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

God Bless!

I'm sitting at a friend's house right now. I'm either going to stay here or with another friend tonight. I can't stand to be home with all those reminders of him. I have the next 2 days off work.

you need to move out during these next two days but finding a place that fast is impossible....just take a rented storage locker and get your stuff out of the house....unless you own it or it is your apt....that you have lease on...then he needs to get the hell out....

sorry you got more smokes....I quit in 1987 and am thankful for that....my health from smoking was failing....

It's my apartment. The lease is in my name. He isn't on the lease at all.

He's already out. I made him move out a couple of days ago. Back to his mom's. But he still has a key. So I have to get that back.

Just have the locks changed. That way you don't have to see him and you can be sure there are no key copies floating around. Glad you're with friends.

My lease agreement prevents me from changing the locks.

Broken,

I am sorry you are undergoing this heartbreaking time, but thankfully you are resolved and confident with your decision--and who could blame you?

I am proud of you for not lingering on the fence about this decision, but making a clean cut so fast. The longer one waits, the more likely he/she is to second guess the decision and return to an arrangement that leaves them broken-hearted once more.

I know this was very hard to do and you are still coping with the aftermath of heartbreak and betrayal. Find comfort and compassion from close friends and family.

Sosa xxx

Yea, I know it hurts, and I'm sorry that this has happened to you. Would be helpful I think for you to have people to talk to about it. Here is good for many because you can just say whatever you need to, sometimes a lot more than if your facing someone. But friends, family, or trusted people can help too.
Life isn't always all rosy. It's full of pain too. You will get through this. you could also try Al-Anon. They are a support group for people that are dealing with alcoholics in their lives.
As an alcoholic myself I can relate to this very well. When we say that were quiting, we can be very sincere, and damned well honest at the time of our convictions about quiting, but we often have no clue about the powerlessness we have concerning alcohol. I'm sure your boyfriend meant what he said at the time with all his heart, but he doesn't know how to fight his disease. We learn that in recovery. He may still try, and he may keep falling. Who knows. All you can do is pray for him, and take care of yourself. Life is hard, but try not to make it worse for yourself. Wish you all the best. James

you deserve to be happy. maybe it will get him to seek help. maybe not, right now you just need to be selfish and take care of you.
1is2many

You are very brave. And very smart. Hopefully this will serve as a wake-up call to your boyfriend. I didn't take sobriety seriously until my husband filed for divorce. I went to rehab and have been sober for almost 6 months. (Unfortunately, the marriage didn't survive.) Ultimately, your boyfriend has to want sobriety for himself as much as you want it for him. Time will tell whether that's the case.

soberjourney -- she decided the day after this post to stay with him as long as he is working on it.

He broke his promise after one day, so hopefully this time will be different.

ExJersey, thanks for the clarification, guess I missed part of that. :-)