Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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Ashley8888 09/26/2009

Well, I am newly back to being sober, and this time it is a little different...I have met a wonderful man...We did start out drinking together and it became apparent I was going to destroy the relationship or stop drinking...So I confessed to him and now he is sticking by me...He has really been great! Totally understanding, encouraging me to go to meetings, willing to go with me, (I have not started back yet but plan to soon...I was pretty sick much of this week)...He has a lot of knowledge of alcoholism through his job and family though he is not an alcoholic himself....He really is great!

But I feel like the biggest bore in the world!! I told him that tonight and he said he was fine, now he is passed out on the couch and I am thinking I really am lame! I am really antsy right now and dont know what to do with myself. I am bored!!! Ahhhh, this just sucks right now....

What is everyone else up to?
Oh and I have been having lots of trouble sleeping...how do you make yourself tired???

deleted_user 09/26/2009

Hi, I am also newly sober (10 days) so I understand about feeling ill recently. Sleep has in the past been very elusive for me also. It got so bad I had to take Luensta for a while until I felt better. I have weaned myself off of it but sleep deprevation is not good for you. I would start out with a natural product you can get at the health food store. Also, the tea for sleep works wonders!!! Use 3 tea bags though, lol. Sex before bedtime also is helpful to relax if you have a partner. Take a warm bubble bath first. Get a bedtime routine going, kinda like when we were children. Alcoholics many times don't have routines down very well any longer.

I have a question...is your new boyfriend passed out due to drinking or is he just asleep? alice

Ashley8888 09/26/2009

He's just asleep, he has been great, he is not drinking anymore either, or around me...I feel kind of bad about that too, like I am forcing something on him, but he does assure me that this is what he wants to do...

deleted_user 09/26/2009

so Ashley-what did you end up doing? You should read when you are bored. There are so many great books out there. We are so ingrained to think that we have to have a rip roaring good time-especially on the weekends. The best memories I have had are relaxing, mellow weekend nights, hanging out with loved ones, sober, or just me and my book.

If you are not into books-go out! I just went to a modern dance company and it was great-escaped reality watching this and I was sober!

Life is interesting, so so interesting, if we open our eyes.

CoogeeMum 09/27/2009

Ashley, you've posted numerous threads on how bored you get when you stop drinking over the past 12 months. Truly, you have, go back and have a look. There's some wonderful advice on them all. Ash, be careful not to place an unhealthy expectation on your new boyfriend to relieve you of your boredom. This is something you need to take action on. YOU need to GOYA and do something for you yeah. Go back and have a read, you've got some great interests listed, don't just list them, do them.

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