Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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hati 05/12/2014

I managed 5 months sober before but since Ive been drinking again its been worse than ever. Im struggling with the idea of going to AA this time Im not sure I can do it alone again it was hard. I felt angry that I couldnt drink like I was missing out. Any advice would be great thankyou. I know my husband will say I dont need AA but the truth is he prob needs it too.

deleted_user 05/12/2014

first u need to listen to yourself in regards to AA your husband he is not the alcoholic and he probably doesn't understand people like us...I get angry to because I can't drink and others can...I have tried that I will only drink 2 drinks and stop...well I know that doesn't work but I kept trying to do that for years only to drink more...so eventually when I felt Oh my God I think I'm killing myself slowly by drinking and I really want to live I had to go cold turkey which was a living nightmare...to say the least and of course I had to do it alone since I had lost my family and friends by then they couldn't stand me no more but I did it and even though I was lonely I felt some what alive again I had a clear head.....and life didn't seem so bad after the fog lifted

Impermanence 05/12/2014

If AA is a good fit, do it. I lasted 1 month to 1.5 years. I kept going back because in my mind I had reservations that there are times when I would drink. It was my need to escape. I finally made the "I will not drink no matter what!" There was nothing in my subconscious that made this a lie. I really meant it. I am 3.5 years sober now. I do not go to AA because it is not a good fit. The only way that you can know is to try it.

Englishcupoftea 05/12/2014

Your title was 'Im going to try again'

you did it, 5 MONTHS!! Well done,

don't let a slip worry you or dwell on what's done

Sending love

English.

stickywick 05/12/2014

Don't struggle with an idea; just go. I can totally relate to struggling with ideas. That is exactly what kept me in the drink, on the wagon, relapse cycle for 4-5 years. I had to struggle to get to where I needed to get (surrender) but it was painful.
I still struggle with my own ideas today; sober. Thankfully I now have others who can help me as my best thinking isnt always good and is often self destructive. And I found that help at AA. I wouldnt trade what I've found in the rooms and with the women I love in AA for anything.

Go, you will be FINE. Remember that FEAR acronym....false evidence assumed real. FEAR.

bbarton6161 05/12/2014

You will lose nothing trying AA. Question is what might you gain? It took me about 3 trips to decide it was what I needed. Now I look forward to meetings.

lostnursetoo 05/12/2014

You can do it Hati!! I am in the same boat with the husband not agreeing with going to AA. I went once and was amazed at the welcome I received. I took the day off work and did not tell my husband I was going. I have not been able to attend AA again, but am going to private counseling. If your husband is dead set against AA, is he agreeable to private counseling? I could not do this without support and so far, my counselor and this group is support enough for me. Just a thought!

hati 05/12/2014

Thankyou for all your advice. I think I should give AA a try.

deleted_user 05/12/2014

Im going to try again too. Focusing on step one right now, I am so
inactive, when I drink I don't do hardly anything.

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