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Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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I need a change- 49 yo female

MinGab
MinGab
Hello~ I've visited this site several times over the last year. I need to be a "regular" to give and get support. I have a beautiful family (3 girls under the age of 15)) and a husband of 25 years. He binges a few days a week. I drink every single day. 3-8 drinks (wine or gin or vodka). I even have a few in the morning while getting dressed for work which i do after the kids leave for school, or I hide it on the weekends. I'm in a top management position for a great non profit.
I had my first pancreatitis attack 2 years ago and spent 4 days in the hospital and lied to everyone about the reason except my husband.
I only quit drinking for a few weeks but have been back to it. This weekend following our neighborhood Halloween party which always involves lots of booze, I am now experiencing some of those abdominal pains. This is ridiculous. I don't want to stop completely because I like good wine so much but I know I need to.
I black out quite often, and my husband is sick of babysitting me those times, like having to wake me from a friend's couch and get me to the car. Humiliating. I want my energy back. I know that one reason I drink so much is that it "allows" me to avoid the tedious stuff such as chores, home repair, etc. If I have a drink or 2, I'm too tired to do anything. It's stupid.
So, I felt depressed this morning but no drinks (it is only 130p though). I'm not drinking today. And then tomorrow. And AA is not for me.
Thank you for reading.
Anyway, I'm glad DS is here
LostGirl99
LostGirl99
Hello MinGab and welcome. I hope you find what you need here. And despite some of the comments here, AA is not for everyone, it is not for me.

I will never disparage such an amazing organization that has helped countless people. But I will support you regardless, just as I support those who chose AA.

Look for things that work for you - I love Allen Carr's book I am nearly finished and I am new to this journey as well.

I too love a good wine, a really good one... But I know I cannot, so I remember that I can have chocolate cake and other wonderful things.

Good Luck to you on your journey - feel free to reach out to me should you need any extra support or a giant list of reasons to love yourself enough not to drink.

smooches
1is2many
1is2many
I started to gett sober the minute I asked for help from a group of other aa's. I just couldn't do it alone. Itried many times. Just shouldn't learn what I didn't know.

My liver and pancreas were a hot mess. I was so hooked that I would have triple the normal enzyme levels in my liver. I was digesting myself. I wouldn't be alive if I didn't have ppl to talk to

I love this site but nothing like face 2 face

Best on your journey

1is2many
bcp65
bcp65
Hi l have been sober for2 yrs7 months.l came to this site when l guit for 4 months.than l just did it on my own.help of my husband and son.just talking.l sometimes feel like l cry more than l use to.but l am also metapausal so could be that.l am hsppy l dont drink.no more monkey on my back.you know thst subconcious mind always saying why are you doing that to yourself.lts completely dissapeared.relief.lts the only way to get healthy .quit drinking.lts like a devil always wanting to intice you.but lts very dangerous and could cause bad fate.Quitting is the only choice.l don't regret quitting.sometimes be good to hang with people who been where l have.l never did AA .l did once didnt feel lt was for me.l would prefer people come to my place have coffee chat.more compfy.l noticed alot of friends who came by when l drank .,dont come by for free wine anymore.funny.lm okay with that.l have done a few changes since l quit.l retired early from my job.l am in business for myself.l make jewlery and do crafty things.l try keep busy.l have a little salon from home.l still think lts okay to talk to people who are going through this.hope it works out for you.lts working for me.take care.
Impermanence
Impermanence
This is interesting about the pancreas. I finished a lecture in my Physiology course last week. Alcohol cause an enzyme that digests food to activate in the pancreas. This enzyme is in its inactive form in the pancreas. It gets activated in the gut. When it's activated in the pancreas, the pancreas digests itself. This is what kills many alcoholics.
buckstag
buckstag
I like this discussion string. Very balanced. I am still waiting for that book report on Allen Carr's book! Just kidding, hope it works for you as well as it has for me.
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