Good on you for not drinking it. Say to yourself every morning: "I won't drink today". When you go to bed at night be grateful for another day's sobriety. Don't worry about tomorrow, just get through today.
Then when the sun comes up again - do the same things again. Sobriety is like eating an elephant. One bite at a time.
You'll make it OK...

Hugs,
Dennis

Put your head on the pillow tonight sober, thats one more day.

P

I am on day 1 again... and not happy about it . Im disappointed in myself.... it is not worth it at all.

G'Day Hati

Many times in my early sobriety I wanted to drink .That's what I done in my past, good times, bad times ,happy times, sad times I drank.so why not do the same when things came up in early sobriety.But the more times I didn't pick up just like you done and good on you for that the more I knew I didn't need to drink.

For me it was about changing my thinking and not listening to that first though that came into my head the one that said take a drink you deserve it remember the goooood times no one will know.

I started to listen to the second thought the one that said look what happened the last time you drank the shame guilt and remorse you suffered do you want that back do you want that" bloody hamster wheel again" and the answer was no.

So there will be times when you want to drink but remember you don't need to, listen to that second thought in your case give the drink to hubby.

I was lucky in those early months I had support from friends in AA I was able to pick up a phone and ring people and talk about what was happening.

Thanks for posting .

God Bless...

Lionel

Drinking was my default it is what I did things get better. I will say the more you "romance' it. sit and look at the more you will struggle.

Hati, one day at a time. I wish I could take my own advice. I know what to do, I know the answer, but we're only human. We get caught up in our ego trip and our pride. Hopefully you won't drink tomorrow. Just try to think about right now. Easier said than done. I know!

But you didn't drink and tomorrow morning I hope you can put that in your head that you won't drink today. You're doing great. If you do decide to drink, don't beat yourself up. That's one of the worst things that leads right back to the bottle.

good for you that you stayed strong! you can do it! like they said, one minute at a time. I keep telling myself when I think Ijust want one glass of wine, that it would not be enough, I would keep on and one. And then I would just be looking for the next drink. I am going to get this monkey off my back. Take a deep breath and hold you head up, we are stronger then that darn bottle!!! When it gets tough, I ask God to help me, and he never fails me if I ask

well, what really helps me with cravings is to get to an AA meeting. also, to talk to others in sobriety on the phone. Also - to think it through - this is a big one for me. When I'm in the obsession to drink, all I can see is the initial wonderful effect - 2 to 6 drinks. But, I never stop there- and then the trouble starts, and the drunken despair - and the next day is the worst. Coming to, to greet my conscience is the pits, and feeling sick and seedy and spiritually bereft.
It is thinking it through that helps me. Also, knowing that I could very well get in a suicidal state - because if I drank again, I would feel so very terrible about it.
good on you for hanging in there - another day sober, is a successful day.
Never mind 'forever'. Just think 'right now.'

Thankyou so much for all your excellent advice as usual. I have woken up this morning so glad that I didnt take that drink as obviously one would have led to many and I would be hungover and remorseful now.