Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.
My husband has been drinking a 1/2 gallon ( +) every 3 days for the last 8 years. Hes already in poor health with a blood disorder and has 2 heart attacks one when he was 25 yrs old and one 4 way bypass at 57 yrs old.
His legs and feet are swollen and his heart sounds are distant. Hes always short of breath and coughs like crazy. He does NOT smoke. He was told by 4 Drs he'd better stop drinking.
He is paranoid, delusional, angry, accusatory and just plain ugly when hes drunk.
Sometimes, when he starts rambling, I just say "yeah ok" to every slurred statement that comes out of his mouth, until he falls asleep. Other times I cant stand him because when trying to have a simple conversation, simple words are not understood.
No one around me undetstands "Drunk Behaviors" No one around me understands the feeling of being alone.
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
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I Pray everyday for God to give me strength. Some days Im stronger than others. The extra Prayers will get me thru the days Im at my weakest. Thank you.
http://al-anon.org/
and also here:
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/wives-of-alcoholics
You need not suffer alone.
We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
God Bless
Much appreciated.
A support group for the relatives of an alcoholic is a good idea. You will be surrounded by people who are in the same position as you and who you could share your experiences with to gain strength and unity ...... it also may fill a void and give you some comfort to know your not alone and thus expand your own support network.
I understand the feeling of being alone - but I'm the alcoholic. My drinking started when my husband's degenerative illness became exacerbated a few years ago and it changed our lives completely - to such an extent that I couldn't cope with the change. You see, I felt that I was also a patient of his condition - I felt resentment, guilt, frustration, loneliness, isolation and no longer felt desired - after all I'm still in my 40's and my husband only 5 years older than me - we should still be doing even the most simplest of things like going for a walk holding hands, spending time with our daughter....... but that all stopped literally overnight.
You will feel all of those emotions reversely as its your husband that is the alcoholic. What we have to remember is that alcoholism is an illness as much as my husbands degenerative illness - but as the "wife" in the relationship where our husbands are the reason for our loneliness we do have a choice - we can standby them or we can leave.
My loneliness is NOT down to my husbands weakness against the power of alcohol but down to his own body becoming weak through no fault of his own, no longer being responsive to treatment and without options or choice.
Your husband has options and he has a choice. He can make a choice that will improve his life and your lives together and you should stand for nothing less because you deserve to be happy, loved, needed and desired...... staying with someone for the wrong reasons will only cause more pain to all concerned in the end.
It's important that as a relative of an alcoholic you understand that there is nothing that you have done, could have done or could do to change your husbands addiction to the drug that is alcohol - take a moment, consider what you want, what you are prepared to work for and if that future is not forthcoming then you have a right to find happiness, wherever and with whoever that may be.
Take care and keep in touch to let us know how you are doing.
Much love JF