I know how you feel. my vice is wine as well. In public, 5 glasses,,,well you are going to be ok. Nip it in the bud while you can. hugs, nikki

My experience has been that everytime I have achieved some time of abstinence and I fall off the wagon the diseace comes even stronger. Staying sober is definitely easier than getting sober.

I'm with rene925.

Every relapse makes the detox and recovery harder.
Not to mention the feeling bad both physically and mentally-one again. I loved my daily wine drinking starting at a few glasses and ending with a few bottles.

Feels good to be sober this Easter.

All the best asthmasucks.

I'm sure that you consciously had no intention of drinking. But you know these people well enough to anticipate this no? Anyway you learned one more thing that you cannot do at this point and stay sober

In time you'll be able to be around others who are drinking. But that time is not yet here

Anywhere that serves alcohol is an inappropriate place for a newly sober alcoholic to spend the night in.It would seem from your post that you have been going it alone with trying to stay sober otherwise you would know that trying to use willpower against alcoholism is a fruitless exercise. It would probably be a good idea to find a programme that will be of assistance to you. I got sober through AA and have been happily and productively sober for many years. PM me if I can help in any way.

I agree with Don....I had to literally run out of a few situations in early sobriety when I realized I just couldnt handle it. Same kind of set up....couples though...high end sushi place, but booze was prevalent. As soon as my friends ordered booze I had to leave. I wasnt ready to be social around alcohol. I had several scenarios like that afterward. what I was told was ALWAYS have an exit plan. For an alcoholic booze is as dangerous as fire. So have an exit plan. I've had to use it a few times.
Now I feel pretty comfortable when I'm in nice restaraunts and friends are drinking. But if I didnt...my sobriety comes first. Its precious to me and I won't risk it to be socially polite.

"If you want what we have then you are willing to go to any lengths"

i want very badly what you guys have , years of sobriety!!! I have been focused on it , praying on it , and im looking for closed meetings AA. I have to start with today , and today I am sober, my friend asks me to have dinner with her bad day at work , i said no because i knew she would have 1 or 2 drinks with ease and i cant, 1 is too many, I cannot right now handle those settings but 1 day hopefully i will. i plan on telling them I started new asthma meds and cant drink so they wont ask me questions , is it weird that i'm embarrassed and dont wanna share?

My advice -- if you don't want to talk about why you aren't drinking that is fine.You have enough to worry about -- let that one go for now. The important part is that you do NOT drink and that you do not put yourself in situations that you are not ready for.

You can always tell your friends that you can't drink because of the med and you don't want to be around it for a few weeks because it will be tempting. Then ask if you can go out to Starbucks or some other place where you can sit and chill and alcohol is not an option.

I do not go to AA meetings, but many people here find them helpful.

im curious jersey girl , how did you achieve sobriety without AA, was it a program or just willpower?