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I can stop at any time, says my spouse!

enoughisenough2
enoughisenough2
My husband says "I can stop at any time." And he has for a while, but then always ends up drinking, whether it be one beer, or one glass of wine. Slowly but surely, creeping up to a couple of vodka & tonics. He has a heavy pour in that he puts 4 oz of alcohol and a splash of tonic. Combined 2 of those on an empty stomach before dinner, it does not make for a very nice night on connecting on an emotional level.

Does this make him an alcoholic?
deleted_user
deleted_user
...I remember saying that! "I can stop anytime!" That is a tough question, and one only he might be able to answer. Although others judged me as an alcoholic, I was certain I wasn't. It wasn't until I said these words that I realized I was an alcoholic...."I'm Corina and I AM an alcoholic."

I would think that the 'creeping' into a higher volume consumption would definitely be a critical concern because of the long-term effects it would have on his body. Even the starting and stopping of consumption has to be putting his body into shock. I think that's called binge drinking or something.

I think alcoholic has a connotation of addiction. I don't know if binge drinking is an addiction. I think it could become habit or routine which might identify a person as alcoholic.
1is2many
1is2many
I could quit at anytime too!, just I could not stay quit...

I finally had enough and got sober.

Nobody is going to get him sober, only I would say check out a other group here.
http://www.dailystrength.org/groups/wives-of-alcoholics

It's ironic that that was the first site I found here. I will say that you have helped me today to remember

How bad I was to my wife when I was boozing.

Remember. The more u nag the more he rebels. Just ignore. I would suggest making things difficult. Make him do laundry, cook, clean. B/c when I was drinking there were no negatives... In my mind ... Just my .02

1is2many
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