Alcoholism Support Group
Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

Get rid of him or find out why you think you have to be in an abusive relationship. You are not going to change him, no matter what he says.
Your efforts should not be about learning how to deal with the abuse, but around stopping it. If he won't go to counseling, look at how you can disengage from the relationship. I agree with others -- get a new counselor for yourself as well. It is not okay to be called names on an ongoing basis by your spouse.
Your hubby needs to learn how to live in the now not in the past. You are what you are today. Your body and mind are not the same as when you were drinking. You are a different person. Let him know that.