Is it okay to ask questions of you to help me with my alcoholic husband? He suffers from depression and has been on medication for 17 years or so. He has been an alcoholic for at least 10 years now. He finally is seeing a psychotherapist. However, he tells me she hasn't advised him to get help for his drinking problem and I find that very hard to believe. I went to one of his sessions per her request and she said that the first thing that has to happen is he has to deal with the alcohol issue, then they need to moderate his depression (alcohol counteracts his depression medication) and then after that has been stabilized then we can work on our relationship. He still tells me it is my fault and his job and other daily triggers that cause his drinking. I really don't understand it. I don't know what I should or shouldn't say, what I should or shouldn't do. It seems like nothing I do is ever good enough or not what he wants or expect of me so he drinks. He never drinks in front of me. He hides his booze in the garage. He goes between whiskey and beer but I am seeing more whiskey use nowadays. My assumption is that it gets to his blood stream faster. I am getting close to my wits end. Any advice or help would be appreciated.