Ok. Done deal:)
Though we can't force you to sign-on here - you'll have to take care of that part.....lol.

got it. I may message a few of you my cell number would you be comfortable with that?

I would totally be comfortable with that:)

I warn you though - I work 12 hour shifts and usually can't answer phone calls when I'm on the floor. But I always have my phone on me and am available to text. (Just didn't want you to think if you called I was ignoring you:)

I already text with several people on this site and find it quite helpful to be able to anytime send someone a "help I need a pep talk QUICK" text...lol:)

Changing, I love your accountability and going all in here.

But this has to be on you. Much like, nobody can force me to attend AA meetings, I'm grateful I want to go! When I miss, I feel agitated.

I can't remember your situation as to why you can't attend meetings, or haven't, but as tremendous as DS is, there's something more about seeing shiny faces, hearing their laughter, feelings their hugs of empathy and support.

An AA meeting is literally a survivors group, who very well know the struggle day in and out. It sounds like you need a sponsor, and a virtual one is not the road Id take. Sit face to face with them, and see if you can identify with them.

I strongly encourage you to attend a meeting or several. Look around the room and find a woman where you say, "I want what she has."

Oh good LORD.
Can you not just leave it at "good for you for reaching out"???? Just ONCE???

And sorry Jeff - I should have not made that comment specific to you. It seems ALL threads lately go to the same place. It's getting like a bit of a detention center around here with all of the pounding. Sometimes a "good for you" is all people need to hear.
I get the zeal of the people who attend AA on here but not every post requires a lecture. Just my 2 cents as I know there are quite a few people who do not even want to post in this group any more due to the overall "air" of this board.

thank you forest freek, im msging you my number and texting is awesome. I have a great deal of reasons for being afraid of aa. as I stated im a clinician in a very small community that is very judgmental. unfortunately ive had threats against my license after attending AA. Its not ok. So that's why im online. I have a private addictions counselor and online aa and this group. I almost went to an aa meeting at 12 noon yesterday but im fearful. I feel safe here. thanks for respecting that. :)

No amount of other people harassing you will keep you sober. So keep coming here; and why not go to some meetings in real life? AA or others. In person support is so helpful in my experience.

Wow.
It's like talking into thin air.
Amazing.
Are certain people on here just on auto-repeat?
Just curious.

Keep at it and lets all support each other. I tried AA and it wasn't a good fit for me. Im now 3 weeks sober and feeling positive. Im keeping busy and enjoying the things I couldn't do when drunk and the weekend seems to last longer when you are sober and no terrible Monday morning hangover.
We can do this!!

FF, there is much more to staying sober than someone saying "good for you". All anyone can do is share their experience here. We can tell others what worked for us. What worked for 2,5,10 & 20 years.

If suggesting an AA meeting is offensive to you, by all means, skip those replies. Maybe you could share what has worked for you?

gr8 - Suggesting AA ISN'T offensive to me as anyone on here who has bothered to read a post by me can see. What IS offensive to me are people that RAG on someone who just lost her mother a week ago. I could care less HOW anyone gets sober, it's not my place nor anyone else's to judge that, however, I feel the lack of compassion on this board is mind-numbing. I am smart enough to know that simply saying "good for you" isn't going to keep someone sober but it sure as heck WILL make them feel welcome on a SUPPORT board their first day back after a loved one has died.

Good for you for getting sober through AA. It's YOUR path, not every one else's.

And what "works" for me is having a heart and caring about other people's feelings.
Thanks for asking:)

Changing, I'm not sure what to tell you since I sobered up before there were home computers but there are many here that are willing to talk to you. Maybe texting and convos will help.

FF, seriously, if you're almost 30 days, hell, if you are at 1 week, there are people who come here on the daily who can't put 2 days together so they need to know how you and others are doing it.:) They are more prone to "listening" to you than someone like me (old as dirt, lol).

i couldnt learn how to live sober on my own. I also was very angry and basically worse off mentally without booze. Until I learned why I drank too much was I able to keep any length of sober. And I couldn't do it without help. There are reasons and there are solutions. You can get sober if you want too! I believe in you
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