Alcoholism Support Group

Alcoholism is the continued consumption of alcoholic beverages, even when it is negatively affecting your health, work, relationships and life. If you think alcohol is causing you to lose control, it's time to seek help. Our group is a safe place to vent, check in, get back up if you fall, and reach sobriety.

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Taradactyl 12/17/2009

Rambling vent...

Arrogant, self destructive, self hater. I love me. I hate me. I love people, but DANG I treat them like shit sometimes!

I am a a living breathing contradiction!

YEARS I have blamed other people for my problems. ALWAYS someone else's fault. I'M always right. I'm smarter. I'm kinder. I'm tougher. Whatever! MAN, I wonder why I was the only one of 4 sibs to have the issues I had as a child and now as an adult. BECAUSE I'M THE PROBLEM. I was and AM the problem.

OMG, I threw a kid's TV out his 3rd floor dorm window in college cuz I was pissed and drunk!!!

I need to look in the f'in mirror. I am an alcoholic with anger management issues and an oversized ego. This has nothing to do with my life or upbringing. It's freakin ME that's the problem!

And I have to figure out how to LOVE myself so I stop self destructing AND I have to find humility.

Can anyone relate?

deleted_user 12/17/2009

You crazy, not me

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Seriously, though.

I agree with everything BUT the upbringing....I think it has a lot to do with it, at least for me.

But i'm a big boy now, I need to fix it, not someone else.

drafter 12/17/2009

Absolutely I can relate. That's me.

Taradactyl 12/17/2009

I forgot to add to add.... Insecure, attention whore

You know the egomaniac in me used to add all this up to PASSION. Please excuse me, I'm just very PASSIONATE! Haha. What a joke.

I still can't figure out if I have high or low self-esteem.

drafter 12/17/2009

Low self esteem, High pride seems to be the pattern...

deleted_user 12/17/2009

What came first, the chicken or the egg? Did the alcohol make us this way or did we use alcohol to deal with our existing issues? I guess it doesn't matter, because you can't fix any of these problems in your life if you're drinking......you can only medicate them.

Self awareness is a great start HowTo.......- you're definitely not alone in this club.

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Hey, the cool thing about it being us in regards to the problem: It means we are in a great place to be a part of the Solution! You do have a choice!

As Coldplay sings in their song "Clocks": "Am I a part of the cure?
Or am I part of the disease?"(~great song!)

deleted_user 12/17/2009

The whole issue of high or low self-esteem is indeed a tough one to figure out in any given situation. We all have heard that when a person acts arrogant, many times that is due to the person having a low opinion of him/herself. So it seems that a person who is acting arrogant can either have a huge ego or a low opinion of self. How is one know?

Worse yet, how can a counselor or doctor know how to help that person?

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Ego is a mask.. IMO.. which is automatically due to insecurities and low self esteem..not wanting anyone to see your hurts and flaws.. that you will not be accepted for who you really are so a mask of confidence is created (unconsciously of course).. A person with true confidence.. doesn't have to be right, lights up a room when they walk in and wishes and sees the best in everyone..

gjm 12/17/2009

Just part of the disease. If your not wiling to change & take direction you will always have it.

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Well is is easier to blame one's problems on others than it it is to take a good long look at yourself! So bravo to you for being ready to do that! An excellent place to start!

nodp2day 12/17/2009

Those "AHA" moments can be a bitch or a blessing. Just another club to beat yourself with or the launching pad to restoring your life.

Choose!!

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Welcome to the awareness world,, congrat's.
Step work will help you dissolve some issues.

CoogeeMum 12/17/2009

I can relate. Right down to being the only one out of 4 to be an alcoholic. I agree with what Jim mentioned, these little self-awareness moments need to be followed up with action yeah. I knew I was an angry little sucker, but that wasn't going to change unless I worked on the fears that drove me to being so angry.

deleted_user 12/17/2009

Oh yeah I can relate, it's probably why alot of us are misdiagnosed as having bipolar disorder, I know they thought I was. But now today I am a very hopeful person enjoying life as life is. Get some positive affirmations, meditate and journal and start telling yourself positive messages and always remember the good that you do. It's usually are inner negative talk that get's us down.

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